Behaviour Handbook - Part 1
Summary: Cluster B Behaviour signs and Red Flags that may be learned a little late due to charm, distraction, deception, avoiding accountability, coverup, moving away from the subjects… any means necessary, using relationships with a false vulnerability (victim card, it will conflict in other areas) and any type of aggression so a truth is not processed. Imagine a person can’t face a truth on their own, they will not want to hear from a person who knows more on the subject… unhealthy comparison plus other elements make a ‘fit the narrative hidden perception’ of the world around. Masking the real issue… its not an adult you are dealing with.
Psychology Today - The Risk Factors for Continuing the Cycle of Abuse
Before you read, have a little insight, it may help centre matters: Masked Emotional Instability
NeuroScience - 80% of Developmental Disorders Linked to Known Recessive Genes
Consider an unhealthy undiagnosed disorder…navigating at the expense of others. Many wonder how they ended up in a marriage that changed or had conflicting behaviour that never changed… it had no intention to change as it doesn’t know how… that may be the job of other people to go along with a facade or temperament… patterned behaviour is a sign of unable to change, stuck, same old…
Psychology Today - 7 Reasons Narcissists Rarely Grow Emotionally
Disinformation - (keep the truth out regardless, big lie, big coverup to distract, there is a processing, guilt and shame reaction happening at the core, triggers.)
BFL - Your Legal Guide to Divorcing a Narcissist – Narcissistic Abuse Explained
CH - Flying Monkeys. Unravelling the Origins of a Term in the Context of Domestic Abuse
The Role of Flying Monkeys in Domestic Abuse
Flying monkeys in the context of domestic abuse play various roles, all of which serve to reinforce the abuser’s control and manipulation:
Spread Disinformation: They may spread lies and rumours about the victim, often echoing the narcissist’s narrative to discredit and isolate the victim further.
Harassment and Intimidation: Flying monkeys can also engage in direct harassment, sending messages or making calls on behalf of the abuser, serving to intimidate and control the victim.
Spying and Reporting Back: In some cases, they act as the eyes and ears of the abuser, reporting back on the victim’s activities and state of mind.
Enabling Denial: Their actions can provide the abuser with plausible deniability, as the abuser can claim they are not directly responsible for the actions of others.
VeryWellMind - What to Do If You or a Loved One Lack Empathy
VeryWellMind - Why Do People Blame the Victim?
Choosing Therapy - 10 Signs of a Female Psychopath (and men but are different)
Psychopathy Is - What are Personality Disorders?
Choosing Therapy - 16 Signs of Narcissistic Abuse & Victim Syndrome
PsychCentral - 11 Signs You're the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse
VeryWellMind- Effects of Narcissistic Abuse
APA Psyc Net - Borderline personality disorder as a female phenotypic expression of psychopathy?
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5-TR)
Psychology Today 52 Ways to Identify a Covert Narcissist
Psychology Today – Low self-awareness – 3 Ways a Narcissist Damages Their Closest Relationships
Research for discussion on several subjects - An open door offered by professionals and educated people alike. Insight into the Untrustworthy Narrator’s behaviour and actions driven by Cluster B personality disorders at the expense of others.
The affected childhood shapes the covert or overt agenda as an adult. Question: What does fear of exposure look like? Someone lacking authenticity is hiding someone, not hiding anything; the reaction to exposure will involve a smear campaign, gossiping, blameshifting, and blaming the victim. No empathy tactics.
“This is not OK”
Summary: “Certain personality types try to hide ‘something’, not ‘nothing’. The truth hurts more than the process of accountability.” Pathological Liars must lie to themselves before they lie to others; a residue can be observed in the behaviour and statements at the moment and at a later date. Micro Expressions are present along with a certain narrative and timeline of coincidence.
Tim’s film ‘31 Tactics’ (see below) shows how a manipulator is made; 40 minutes of view time is required (part 1); try a few smaller films first; the suggested order will help the perception transition into seeing what is hiding in plain sight.
PsychCentral - What is Sadistic Parenting?
“When the gaslighting stops working, triangulate to damage the public image of others to cover up.”
Triangulation is an extension of Gaslighting to cover up what happens away from public consumption. The victim card and Blaming the Victim will be the first response of a highly manipulative person who wants to continue without change. Childhood experiences haunt them and will be used as fuel for justification. Venting and stemming happen as it happened to them. The Abuse Cycle continues.
Emotional Abuse - Subtle, chipping, poking, under the radar, I'm Joking, Silent Treatment, gatekeeping, influencing to break a perception. The list is long and usually covert; the overt abuse is loud. Both will have a secondary attempt to cover it up.
Gaslighting is a form of chargeable emotional abuse. Always speak to a professional and the authorities when matters get out of hand. Dr Grande can explain the fantasy issues created by affected childhood that can appear in adult relationships.
Fear of Exposure - An agenda takes action to hide events that will damage the person's public image—hiding something rather than hiding nothing.
Narcissistic Collapse - The Persona, hidden agenda, hidden trauma, and their manipulative ways fall apart via exposure or the mask slipping. The control issues lose control. Blameshifting and triangulation will continue for periods, exposing a lack of processing, accountability and self.
Cohesive Behaviour - A life expectancy can drop, and years of emotional restructure recovery could be required due to the tolerance of what is unhealthy for one is unhealthy for two. People get ill when living with a covert manipulator and struggle to recover; the brain and heart can gain issues due to walking on eggshells, stress and overlying compensating someone else’s personality disorder. UK Government Guidelines
Silent Treatment - Different to going No Contact. A form of ongoing covert abuse and manipulation.
Passive-Aggressive - A form of abuse, always speak to a professional about the person's behaviour; their childhood experiences will play a part along with emotional intelligence.
Subjective - A person's or group’s view is not based on truth and facts… and it can be a manipulated point of view to influence. Politics, work and family cultures so a person can gain power over others and hide an agenda.
Misinformation - Misinformation can spread faster because it is shaped, flawed, and has an agenda, whereas the truth requires certification cross-referencing and validation from certified source material.
False Reality - A facade created by a childhood experience; if an adult chooses not to remove it, mark a red flag. Control issues (cohesive behaviour) can be seen via extending the childhood that was not received.
Fraud - A childhood survival technique - Cut corners, then cover it up. Before accountability, cause and effect are processed and formulated, the behaviour is classed as survival without validation, consideration and a balanced education. The pathway shapes the mind.
Facade - A damaging extension of wearing a personality mask, the lifestyle must be covered up. Psychology Today - The Facade (a dangerous protection tactic to avoid change.)
Dunning Kruger Effect - Overestimating and underestimating a fantasy issue.
Toxic Positivity - Ignoring the core issue and manipulating others to believe there is nothing. wrong.
Gossiping - Linked to a lack of emotional intelligence and, in several cases, personality disorder - speaking of people without them present or the facts to slant a reputation with an agenda. A manipulator's tactic is to influence without considering cause and effect; they need to be indirect like they were in childhood. Far from innocent and can cause irreversible damage, unprofessional and childlike in sum cases.
Debunking Assumption - Review a subjective opinion and test all pieces of information used in an opinion. To catch a cat burglar, catch them in the act, can be part of exposing an agenda.
Overly Dramatic - Linked to Borderline and manipulation, the childhood perception.
Playing It Down - Trying to defuse manipulation and abuse after exposure.
Truth Seekers vs Conflict Seekers - Remove the false smear campaign with education and facts after empathy tests and morris are used to expose the manipultor.
Discard - Treating people as objects that no longer have use is not the same as going No Contact. Linked to personality issues and a lack of accountability. Hiding in plain sight breaks once discard is repeated.
Red Flags - Biased behaviour patterns, statements and actions with double standards, false reality agenda, gaslighting, covert and overt abuse, fraud, smear, manipulation, avoidance, lack of accountability, no empathy for others, lack of growth, silent treatment and taking feedback as criticism. To name a few.
True or False: People with an unaffected childhood who never chose to find personal growth or a new education are the world's manipulators; they are made from one situation as others are made from another. Masking to survive as they did in childhood, assuming everyone will do what they do to others (delusion).
Highly Manipulative People: You will never see them coming if the professional victim card is not fully understood and why it is used with ease. Also, a certain kind of charm is defined as a Compensating Behaviour and linked to a lack of Empathy for others and how a person tries to draw attention to themselves. All behaviour can be tested for authenticity.
References:
Psychology Today - 7 Reasons Narcissists Rarely Grow Emotionally
“For educational purposes only, research for consideration.”
