The False Self-Construct
The False Self-Construct vs The Authentic Navigating Self
Summary: Before going through some of the subjects mentioned, start with simple and tough challenges to activate the grey matter running on 12 watts. Not all will be what it seems at first for several reasons.
Human behaviour can be spotted straight away or be a complete mystery.
By simplifying the insight on the human mind, born temperament, developed character, and personality behaviour patterns, we can see what has developed and why, and where it has come from by simply joining the dots and looking through history beyond words, statements at certain times and actions or lack of.
What is happening under the mask?
What happens when the mask slips?
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A Psychologist Explains Why Loving A Narcissist Is Often A Sign Of Deeper Issues
PsychCentral - The Incredibly Seductive Pull of a Very Skilled Narcissist
BetterHelp - Is A Healthy Relationship Possible With Someone Who Has NPD?
What is narcissistic injury?
What is a trauma bond?
Biased stories without accountability, covering tracks, a lack of empathy and an agenda should be known that the false self-construct wants what it didn't get in childhood and but can't figure it’s now in the adult world. It’s not about games and objects... the relationships lack authenticity and a deeper connection. The victim card is the child wanting to cover it up at no expense.
True or False: Those who wear a mask refuse to see or admit it; others must not point it out either. The façade and public image are the priority, so a lack of vulnerability must be maintained at any cost.
True or False: Those who are very comfortable with pathological lying are in fact, dangerous in a number of ways.
True or False: Living with a lie is harmful to the victim and the disruptor; the term “your lie will eat you alive” has stood the test of time for a reason.
True or False: The residue from hiding a truth is seen in many areas of a person’s life.
True or False: Chronic stress is linked to an internal influence or an external influence or both. Living without authenticity, no accountability, living with a lie is very harmful to health. Some mask it, some don’t. Truth can change a person’s health faster than any placebo; a complete transformation in the perception of what being human actually is can influence others to move forward instead of backwards.
True or False: Insecurity and vulnerability are completely different elements; one uses truth to process, and the other doesn’t.
True or False: Knowing what is false comes from being authentic, for the simple reason that if you don’t know what truth is, it’s harder to spot a lie. So, start with the facts and work backwards to the core… it is a professional practice.
True or False: Supply cut-offs due to behaviour, injury, and covert or overt rage are elements part of a cycle linked to a person with high, very unhealthy degrees of narcissism still present in adulthood.
True or False: People may initially feel like the only one, even confused, when they spot a person using a false self-construct with questionable survival tools. Later, clarity redefines everything after the correct education and leaves an enmeshed dysfunctional system created by in many situations, an undiagnosed personality disorder hiding in plain sight.
True or False: Emotional stability or instability is linked to childhood experiences due to those years when a person is made. Full life never escapes the person; how they observe their own life will determine how they see others.
True or False: Filtering the world perception ‘fit the narrative’ is highly dangerous for everyone. The last person to spot it will be the person who lacks self-awareness.
True or False: Positive or negative influence, education in different forms and subjects, varying degrees of emotional intelligence on the self and others, ability to problem solve, and seeing beyond face value are partly linked to a person’s perception of the world around them, and what feels like ‘truth’ and what doesn’t.
True or False: Control issues are linked to hidden insecurity, lack of balance, and genuine education on the self and others.
True or False: If the manipulating person feels a lack of control, they double down and do not back off. Boundaries, parameters and accountability are not processed.
True or False: People who lack empathy for others manipulate others instead; it is the simple pathway for them. It may allow some form of success in certain short-term situations, but it exposes them in the long term.
True or False: How a person is born, made, influenced, educated and survives is not common knowledge after 40,000 years. Many who have never read a book may assume that the simple interactions within their family system are all they need for life.
True or False: Truth is linked to longevity, success and long-term, genuine, authentic relationships. If everyone is involved in an enmeshed system, maintains habit loops, is single, and is frustrated with not understanding accountability, the only truth is a false truth at the hidden core.
True or False: Unhealthy habit loops, one-way feedback loops, blocking truth, and being easily influenced without a second thought are all linked to low emotional intelligence but can be rectified with a mind software update.
References:
PsychCentral - How Shame Shapes Our False Self
Psychology Today - False Self-True Self: The Perils of Living a Lie to Fit In
Healthy Place - The Dual Role of the False Self
Oxford Academic - The Concept of the False Self
