Empathy Testing With Boundaries
Summary: There are several ways to stop, expose, or shame a disruptive/abusive person who lacks empathy for others. Document conduct, it might need to be brought out in the open if systems are in place to hide it.
VeryWellMind - What to Do If You or a Loved One Lack Empathy
Highly deceptive, manipulative, covert or overt types display behaviour that lacks empathy for others, masking agenda, tools from childhood, their perception of themselves and others is not accurate, fixed and overly filtered.
Psychology Today - The Risk Factors for Continuing the Cycle of Abuse
Before you read, have a little insight, it may help centre matters: Masked Emotional Instability
They display a biased processing system that does not see their actions, only the reactions to their behaviour, filtering out guilt and shame. Sample can be seen in the victim card, bully-victim cycle, and lack of awareness of cause and effect.
VeryWellMind - What to Do If You or a Loved One Lack Empathy
VeryWellMind - Why Do People Blame the Victim?
Bound by a disorder, truth bias within others helps them hide the tricks or agenda… Education is key to seeing how one sentence is chosen over the other and why the statements and actions do not match. Other people’s emotions and self-esteem (malignant type will target with “what if it was you”), means their navigating pathways hide questionable actions, but not invisible.
They may appear to be two versions of someone… both undeveloped… both requiring boundaries or emotional abuse, triggers to truth and accountability or a trauma bond can be placed over others peoples perception.
A lack of boundaries, enmeshment culture, persistent emotional influencers and abusers, no accountability, injury and supply cycles, its all documented… patterned behaviour is present because there is no accountability so they remain stuck, immature, dismissive, fragile egos, draining but will try to gain over others via short cuts and coverups.
Instructions to expose are part public for a reason; label the behaviour and reactions, not the person; some who use a label may take advantage of it with a deep assumption that everything they do is acceptable due to what they observed in childhood.
Various videos offer options to expose something unhealthy, write everything down when confronted in writing, either avoidance, more manipulative, knowing exposure will break the false self-construct ASAP, or keep going and going, not seeing how delusional their view over control issues or emotional abuse actually is.
Find an educated empath, authorities, and professionals, and be knowledgeable enough to let the mask slip and document it. Its going to need exposure, its how it is done and done safely with boundaries.
Pre-fear of exposure
Fear of exposure
Post-fear of exposure
True or False: An overreaction towards the truth and facts will create a coverup. No processing, but knowing the public image, guilt and shame will be too much to handle.
Empathy testing can be closure, simply adding paranoia to the lies behind the eyes… someone is hiding something, they are not hiding nothing… the reaction to the truth will show how deep the deception and negative behaviour actually is… the public image will be flawed, expect the worse nightmare to be used on others.
Dismantling the false self-construct can be done by targeting their ego, apply a psychological truth mirror and boundary. Writing, list, define in text which can be disrupted with a manipulative conversation. If someone cant see themselves on the internal, it will be present on the external when deeper accountability conversations are used.
Some Cluster B types or Drak Triad and Tetrad, may see others more than themselves, some maybe watching how everyone treats them, and in turn, may want to charm a distraction from the real actions. It’s not worth offering time to false self constructs; focus on what is genuine, authentic, empathic, connecting, long-term balanced people who have a purpose beyond the me, me, me… of the drain of an influencing trauma bond. Those who have practiced covering up are at an advantage at first, only because they have to coverup in some form. Those who practice something different, do that better, and protect that with insight.
To spot a manipulator, compare to those who think like this and can maintain it: You, me and the situation. That and a history of questions behaviour that can be labelled with research, it will stand out like red light, apply red flag.
