Professional Victim Card
Summary: Summary: Be very careful of the emotional manipulative form of emotional abuse.
(If it’s an emergency, go to the Domestic Abuse (subtle) page, and scroll to the numbers.)
Its a form of narcissistic supply, and they will be blaming their victim who doesn’t give them the attention they think they deserve.
VeryWellMind - Why Do People Blame the Victim?
VeryWellMind - What to Do If You or a Loved One Lack Empathy
Psychology Today - The Risk Factors for Continuing the Cycle of Abuse
The manipulative behaviour is designed to deflect accountability towards other people via blameshifting and blaming the victim via seeking validation, gossip or smear. The core purpose is fear of exposure and to distract from their own behaviour that will shame their public image. The action is highly damaging to people without the correct education to spot the difference and can be done by a high-functioning type.
Disinformation - (keep the truth out regardless, big lie, big coverup to distract, there is a processing, guilt and shame reaction happening at the core, triggers.)
BFL - Your Legal Guide to Divorcing a Narcissist – Narcissistic Abuse Explained
CH - Flying Monkeys. Unravelling the Origins of a Term in the Context of Domestic Abuse
The Role of Flying Monkeys in Domestic Abuse
Flying monkeys in the context of domestic abuse play various roles, all of which serve to reinforce the abuser’s control and manipulation:
Spread Disinformation: They may spread lies and rumours about the victim, often echoing the narcissist’s narrative to discredit and isolate the victim further.
Harassment and Intimidation: Flying monkeys can also engage in direct harassment, sending messages or making calls on behalf of the abuser, serving to intimidate and control the victim.
Spying and Reporting Back: In some cases, they act as the eyes and ears of the abuser, reporting back on the victim’s activities and state of mind.
Enabling Denial: Their actions can provide the abuser with plausible deniability, as the abuser can claim they are not directly responsible for the actions of others.
References:
Psychopathy Is – What are Personality Disorders?
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5-TR)