Abuse Delegation

Summary: Put space between the covert abuser and manipulator via convincing other people to create guilt on their behalf, let them get the hand dirty while watch the chaos created and keep the heat away from the disruptive person who fears exposure.

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Abuse delegation can be seen as henchman, enablers and flying monkey all follow a narrative to suit one who will use any tick to keep the accountability away fro, them. Yes they are self aware of their action and feel what they is doing is better than emotional people chose to do, speak direct. Manipulation is subtle or with a professional victim card at the beginning or the end of the abuse cycle.

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The Role of Flying Monkeys in Domestic Abuse

Flying monkeys in the context of domestic abuse play various roles, all of which serve to reinforce the abuser’s control and manipulation:

  1. Spread Disinformation: They may spread lies and rumours about the victim, often echoing the narcissist’s narrative to discredit and isolate the victim further.

  2. Harassment and Intimidation: Flying monkeys can also engage in direct harassment, sending messages or making calls on behalf of the abuser, serving to intimidate and control the victim.

  3. Spying and Reporting Back: In some cases, they act as the eyes and ears of the abuser, reporting back on the victim’s activities and state of mind.

  4. Enabling Denial: Their actions can provide the abuser with plausible deniability, as the abuser can claim they are not directly responsible for the actions of others.

A manipulator will target persons self esteem and baggage to use and direct so they create the guilt. The truth seeker should learn all the tricks of someone who avoids accountability, they are the bully victim with a childhood issue. als observe the professional victim card, fear of exposure means someone is hiding something, they are not hiding ‘nothing’.

Why would someone want to be indirect and use others? Its a straight question.

Covert aggression has gaslighting, once that fails, triangulation is the next step to keep the facade and narrative active which the abuser manipulator wants to live by.

Some experienced a childhood that activated manipulative ways, it is where it all starts to gain validation.

References:

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