Unreliable Source

Summary: Somebody masking a lack of empathy for others can hide it well to those who are not education. Charm, distraction, false promises, victim card etc… If fear of exposure happens via accountability is pushed in their corner… everything changes. The manipulative false-self-construct tries harder to keep the facade going… pay attention.

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Fear of exposure will bring a narcissistic cycle to the surface; the passive-aggressive covert type may use what they fear the most to make sure they are not spotted. Further evidence of a manipulator will unravel. Grab your popcorn it’s a dramatisation of blame-shifting and a victim card.

Teenagers can find advice at Psych2go (numerous subjects to help spot something that might appear as camouflaged)

Before you read, have a little insight, it may help centre matters: Masked Emotional Instability

True or False: A highly manipulative person should only blame shift onto their bad role model parents.

Disinformation - (keep the truth out regardless, big lie, big coverup to distract, there is a processing, guilt and shame reaction happening at the core, triggers.)

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The Role of Flying Monkeys in Domestic Abuse

Flying monkeys in the context of domestic abuse play various roles, all of which serve to reinforce the abuser’s control and manipulation:

Spread Disinformation: They may spread lies and rumours about the victim, often echoing the narcissist’s narrative to discredit and isolate the victim further.
Harassment and Intimidation: Flying monkeys can also engage in direct harassment, sending messages or making calls on behalf of the abuser, serving to intimidate and control the victim.
Spying and Reporting Back: In some cases, they act as the eyes and ears of the abuser, reporting back on the victim’s activities and state of mind.
Enabling Denial: Their actions can provide the abuser with plausible deniability, as the abuser can claim they are not directly responsible for the actions of others.

Re-educate or allow what you see from behind the mask; sign off what your gut tells you… you spotted it for a reason…just like every behaviour professional knows… never take anything on false value.

Remove your Truth Bias to have a solid boundary, and observe from a distance… or you might be in for an emotional rollercoaster when narcissistic supply and narcissistic rage (passive-aggressive or aggressive, the greedy baby, self-serving teenager) is in a cycle with a truth conflict over control issues.

The Fantasy Issues cannot keep the public image and the facade feeling stable around an over-inflated delusional, controlling, manipulative ego hiding behind the False Self or Mask.

The ‘unreliable source’ is a professional victim card, gaslighting, self-esteem influence “what if it was you” or when ‘fear of exposure’ is triggered and the entire scam feels like the masked self can’t navigate others to go along with a facade.

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True or False: For a person to operate in a certain way, they must lack empathy for others and prefer to try and influence others to get what they want.

True or False: Fantasy issues are linked to unhealthy assumptions of others and the world around them. Trying to influence others to ‘go along’ with the fantasy offers a narcissistic supply.

True or False: The term ‘fit the narrative’ is the internal processing linked to pathological lying on the external.

Quote: “Their biggest fears are their inspiration to damage control”

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“Image is everything, no boundaries, control issues, secret keeping, hide fraud and abuse.”

There are two ways a balanced person will witness a narcissistic unreliable source: First is ‘be part of this’ while no change ever appears. The second is ‘they or that person did this, and I don’t know why’. Even a covert narcissist (look out) will try and convince an educated psychology counsellor/therapist as the belief in not being wrong echoes in the false belief system or ‘trying to make it real’ in the ‘fit the narrative’ construct.

Studying the professional victim or the overt rollercoaster ride is key to spotting a lack of accountability. An emotionally manipulative schemer is a schmear 24/7, so the no empathy for others and fantasy issues all create a ‘personal false truth’ linked to no accountability will keep going so the truth is always filtered out. Why would a person want to filter the truth out? They need a good reason, later you may find plenty… so a good story works best… “all that stuff in the past is not my business” perception keeps the facade going.

The problem we have is if a narcissistic person were only manipulating themselves, society would carry on without the dramas. The unfortunate truth is they are trying to get others onboard to manipulate due to the attachment profile, and others can get affected by what is unhealthy for one, which will be unhealthy for two, on a face value agreement.

The more Machiavellian a narcissist is, the more trouble will be had when others are on to them. The unhealthy fear of abandonment, passive-aggressive agenda, gossip, smear campaigns and every other deep fear a narcissist has… will be used on others in a manipulative way to make sure others are hurt. Their biggest fears are their inspiration to damage control… Sounds like a child not getting what they want? I the adult body it is temporary camouflage at best if the cycle is noted.

True or False: A person can prove or expose a narcissist by presenting a mirror in front of them and presenting a boundary if their covert behaviour is abusing other people’s empathy, self-esteem, personal space, health, finances or manipulation, attention for supply and stimulation.

True or False: Highly manipulative people expose themselves to educated people, and they hurt those who are not.

True or False: The false self-construct is not known by the person who wears it.

True or False: Accountability is something other people do to shame and guilt themselves.

True or False: There is nothing more contradictory and exposing than a Love Bomb. Pure fantasy inside the manipulative construct of reality.

Solution… once truth bias is removed, know that not everyone will or can develop into a fully matured adult. Something never happened, and not everyone with an affected childhood or was allowed to do and say what they want… will have a split in the personality to create an undiagnosed disorder. Very few seek help as they can’t see something is deeply wrong. The unfortunate truth is that others may enable, compensate, go along, and focus their attention on something instead of the core issue. It is no one’s fault for believing a victim card…its low, a real low, so low many can’t imagine a person doing it… and that is the trick.

To clarify, imagine being watched for how much attention or empathy you are directed in one direction without even knowing it is happening. Or the drama sensed is generated but not from the core. A person may think, “That sounds like a lot of work, why?”. It might appear like a child trying to gain validation from narcissistic parents who never offer something so the child needs to try harder. and the cycle continues… Pay attention in the same way you are being observed for giving validation or attention… it is surprising how a person’s true self or agenda will appear in the form of a bias or a manipulative fragile comment. There is a need and an emotional cycle under the surface; do not doubt it. In fact, learn why it is present.

You can manipulate a narcissist into thinking they are getting attention and stimulation; Machiavellian people do it all the time; they do it to everyone who falls for it and usually through others. Educated Empaths at the Apex on such matters see a biased situation from a distance, know all the tricks that will present over time… and they all do the same tricks like clockwork, it’s uncanny how accurate the research is on covert, overt and highly manipulative types, they know what they know for a reason, one even published a book on how to be more of it… some have no shame (joke).

Is it worth giving a narcissistic person what they want when they keep doing something and blameshift or blameshift on to their victim like an addict with Coercive Control (extending the childhood they never got) when the world is not looking? No, of course not. Leave that to the professionals who are paid to fix matters of deep concern; life is too short. You will probably be making it worse by enabling a fantasy issue beyond your perception, and your energy may get drained next.

Let’s be honest: education on matters beyond face value gives all the answers, so narcissism is time-consuming on two accounts, but one is far more fulfilling, and the other is draining. Everyone has met one or two, everyone has questioned something odd, and everyone can be unsure at times. the old saying goes “You can fool some people some of the time, not everyone all of the time”. I like that one, it was made for a good reason. Some people can be very unreliable at the core… others are not. Chose how you spend your time wisely and who with and what you believe on face value, after while matters will appear to lack emotional intelligence, but that’s ok, there is no need to judge an unreliable person spouting out all kinds, its their life and fansty, not yours… unless you let them.

True or False: Enablers, flying monkeys, gaslighting, control issues, gossiping and smear. Plus, emotional dysregulation sounds like undeveloped emotional intelligence with a personality disorder. They have a hidden fantasy issue, refuses to grow up or can’t due to certain childhood experiences which must be looked at correctly.

Sometimes it’s best to ask the tough questions first to get to the core of the issue.

PCL-R assessment:

Hare Psychopathy Checklist (Original) (PCL-22)

Screening Tests for Psychopathy

IrLabs - Psychopathy Test

The Psychopathy Checklist - Revised - Two Factors.

(PCL-R; Hare, 1991, 2003)

Emotional-Interpersonal Features - Factor 1*

• Superficial charm

• Grandiosity

• Lying

• Manipulation