Trauma Bonding
Summary: A long-term manipulation that degrades an innocent/considerate/balanced person over time.
Fearless.org (Anonymous reporting on behalf of someone)
A covert person may have had an abusive childhood and then become a product of that environment. The emotional abuser's marriage or relationships require another person to be inside a facade/bond to project control issues on to and go along with specific emotional terms, usually not seen in public, all carefully masked.
“Trauma-bonding lives in the nervous system. The brain makes associations between “love” and abuse or neglect.” Ingrid Clayton Ph.D.
If a person is beyond tired emotionally or health affected in a certain way, speaks of the relationship without a full spectrum of awareness, has less going on at home, and has a different life at work away from the suspected trauma bond, be mindful that advice may not be seen as help. The influence to keep someone in the trauma bonds can be dressed up as something else. Control issues are masked but learned from something.
References:
Psychology Today - The Risk Factors for Continuing the Cycle of Abuse
VeryWellMind - It's not about bonding over trauma, it's bonding due to abuse
Choosing Therapy - Trauma Bonding: Definition, Signs, & How to Break One
Cleveland Clinic - Here’s What Trauma Bonding Really Is and How To Recognize the Signs
Choosing Therapy - Dysfunctional Family: Signs, Causes, & How to Cope
Healthline - How to Recognise and Break Traumatic Bonds
Choosing Therapy - PTSD in Children: Symptoms, Causes, & Treatments
PsychCentral - Understanding the Trauma Bonding Cycle
Choosing Therapy - Childhood Trauma: Types, Causes, Signs, & Treatments
