Going No Contact Actions

Summary: Mixed behaviour, mixed aggression hidden inside a victim card, and charm in public is unacceptable. No one is responsible for someone else’s harmful conflicting mental health agenda with covert or overt abuse and control issues. A person is made in childhood; it is their responsibility to grow into an adult with consideration, no one else should compensate or enable them to avoid accountability, guilt and shame.

Fearless.org (Anonymous reporting on behalf of someone)

LL - Gaslighting: Examining the Warning Signs

The design and purpose of creating No Contact actions. Make sure you have an exit plan; there will be thrid party influence; inform the right people in your life; others may harm you with very little or zero empathy and consideration. Those actions will help have charges against the core abuser at a later date.

If it is an emergency, go to the Domestic Abuse page, check the definitions, and find the numbers to call.

Choosing Therapy - What Is the No Contact Rule?

Choosing Therapy - Going No Contact With a Narcissist: Everything You Need to Know

FOS - Complaints That Involve Economic And Domestic Abuse

The Role of Flying Monkeys in Domestic Abuse

Flying monkeys in the context of domestic abuse play various roles, all of which serve to reinforce the abuser’s control and manipulation:

  1. Spread Disinformation: They may spread lies and rumours about the victim, often echoing the narcissist’s narrative to discredit and isolate the victim further.

  2. Harassment and Intimidation: Flying monkeys can also engage in direct harassment, sending messages or making calls on behalf of the abuser, serving to intimidate and control the victim.

  3. Spying and Reporting Back: In some cases, they act as the eyes and ears of the abuser, reporting back on the victim’s activities and state of mind.

  4. Enabling Denial: Their actions can provide the abuser with plausible deniability, as the abuser can claim they are not directly responsible for the actions of others.

Research: For those stepping Away - Choosing Therapy offers a set of instructions when dealing with undiagnosed personality disorders and the actions around that disorder; it is key when playing ‘catch up’ to observe why those instructions are paramount. Secondary evidence will surface on its own, so have strong boundaries in place and a chosen support system. Those who have ‘unhealthy validation’ needs will have an audience ready to be used to justify any actions with a conflicting Professional Victim Card, something linked to still having the child mind present in the adult aged brain, double standards, sending photographs without text to use to distract/gaslight, blaming the victim, anything to break boundaries to gain control. Always gain the advice of the professional community.

References: (A handbook for observation and documentation)

Choosing Therapy - Narcissistic Enablers: How to Recognize & Deal With One

Choosing Therapy - Emotional Manipulation: Signs & How to Cope

Choosing Therapy - Trauma Bonding: Definition, Signs, & How to Break One

Choosing Therapy - Narcissistic Injury: Definition, Signs, & Examples

Choosing Therapy - Narcissistic Smear Campaign: What It Is, Tactics, & How to Deal With It

Choosing Therapy - 9 Narcissistic Manipulation Tactics & How to Deal

Choosing Therapy - Victim Mentality: Definition, Causes, & How to Stop

Choosing Therapy - Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD): Signs, Symptoms, & Treatments

Choosing Therapy - What Is the No Contact Rule?

Choosing Therapy - Going No Contact With a Narcissist: Everything You Need to Know

Choosing Therapy - Childhood Trauma: Types, Causes, Signs, & Treatments

Womens Aid - How common is domestic abuse?

Womens Aid - Myths about domestic abuse

Here are some situations when individuals may wish to utilize the no-contact rule:

The no contact rule with a narcissist involves the following:

  • No phone calls or texting with the person

  • No contact via a third party

  • Blocking them from your social media

  • Not following them on their social media

  • Not staying friends

  • Not accepting gifts from them

  • Not dwelling on thoughts of them

    Not planning to get revenge on them

Before you read, have a little insight, it may help centre matters: Masked Emotional Instability.

True or False: Unhealthy minds think alike, and exposure can trigger any kind of deceptive person with a history to hide.

True or False: Not everyone gains an adult perception and may blame away the things they do because it is the first thing that springs to mind; the lie behind the eyes is the inspiration; it is an imagination issue linked to the emotional abuse they generate. Who would they know anything different with a damaged feedback loop.

True or False: A person with a damaged perception is a wounded/effected contradiction, they fear exposure and choose not to be accountable at the same time, they see nothing wrong with their actions, filter their action with a fit the narrative equation. Seen as survival or to protect the false self-construct for public consumption, all actions are acceptable.

Emotional abuse or abuse or any form is a chargeable offence; document direct and indirect actions taken to harm, coverup or behave one way in public and different behind closed doors. Proffderoianls and the authorities are trained to deal with under-the-radar abuse, cohesive control, blaming shifting, inducing conformity to move on without accountability, no negative action is acceptable, someone does not want to be known for actions they still want to take to suit their damaged perception of right and wrong. Be mindful or the professional victim card. Exposure from a distance with professional guidance.

Design - Protect someone’s mental and physical health from a person or person’s who may have a damaged perception of reality and behaviour created from a singular or combination of genetic pre-cursors, abuse or no accountability childhood, which then manifests into adulthood with a false self-construct for public consumption, avoidance of accountability, self-awareness, blame-shifting on to others or blame their victims due to not seeing/feeling their core actions or history having any input on how others see or reaction to unlawful behaviour and boundaries are abused.

The abuser or abusers may use emotional abuse, and gaslighting to apply unhealthy conformity that has a memory loss or detachment to anything the abuser chooses not to process, so they suppress and expect others to suppress and ignore as the targeting is acceptable in the damaged perception. Venting from behind the false self-construct, not getting that control issues link to childhood experiences and low emotional intelligence. In many cases, an abuser has no idea they have an undiagnosed personality disorder due a a harmful feedback loop without empathy for others… only seeing their own existence and assuming detached excuses. You are not dealing with a balanced adult mind that may never understand who they are and what the feedback is for.

Going No Contact protects one person and exposes another, and secondary evidence will link to the primary evidence. Any triangulation with flying monkeys, documented for the purpose of knowing an abusive coward, still wants to harm without any change in the perception that created the primary evidence.

Smear, gossip, and using others, once seen, the closure is exposure and creating further damage with a short-term emotionally abusive plan to cover up at any expense. People are tranasaitonal linked to emotions rather than see people as people in the way people with empathy for others do.

Parts of the brain may not be functioning, emotional abuse through others exposes triggers, fear of exposures and problems in the collaborators influenced with odd contratly percetions.

Going No Contact requires a new education, perception, and pathway away from the disruptor with an undiagnosed personality disorder. Many hide in plain sight until triggers or the false self-construct is given feedback or accountability challenged.

True or False: A person with affective and cognitive empathy will think one way with accountability, consideration and long-term choices, a person without will do something else when fear of exposure is triggered. Feedback is not an option; the lie behind the eyes is not processed in any way; it may be put on to someone else instead, guilt and shame are not in the equation, only “why me?” or “if I am hurting, so must they.”

References:

VeryWellMind - What to Do If You or a Loved One Lack Empathy

Getcourtready - The Dynamics of Narcissism and Co-Narcissism

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