Psychopathy vs Narcissism Treatable?
Dark Triad and Dark Tetrad Treatable?
Control Issues in Relationships
Summary: Many people go through life undiagnosed for a number of reasons; the first flawed assumption is - “What are you on about? Nothing is wrong”
Hare Psychopathy Checklist (Original) (PCL-22)
The second flawed assumption is a total lack of self-awareness with regard to behaviour outside parameters and crossing boundaries without any form of learning and accountability.
Choosing Therapy - 10 Signs of a Female Psychopath (and men but are different)
The agenda can be to influence and normalise the surrounding environment within a facade to prevent triggers, then blame the victim for making them think that they are in the wrong.
Personality disorders hurt others first while keeping the disruptive person delusional about what is right and what is wrong. If a trait has been used and gained any kind of success through corner cutting or using someone, the third flawed assumption is they must be better than everyone else and they are allowed to do damaging behaviour as lighting did not strike them down.
A lack of moral code will create a residue and follow the disruptor around like a bad smell is the patterned behaviour goes beyond a certain point of disruption, and it is usually others who will point out the issues. This can mean the defence mechanism that protects the personality disorder and accountability from feeling guilt and shame will block to protect the ego.
The facade will most likely have a vortex, trauma bond, influence, a cover-up and some form of unhealthy control issues towards others through emotional abuse, abuse, financial control or a connection where the label is used. For example, a parent, sibling or parent with a personality disorder may use “you need me” in some form or use “I am your parent” or “we are family” or “you need this job”.
Seeking and gaining a new education on behaviour and gaining professional advice is the first step to understanding everyone is different for a number of reasons… and truth bias should not be manipulated by anyone, it is probably best to remove it so the patterns are never assumed they will go away. Adults rarely change for others when disorders are concerned, and it requires a certain kind of guidance to have mind software update on right and wrong.
At the end of the day, if nothing feels wrong, nothing is seen as wrong, and everyone enables, compensates or even does the dirty work on their behalf, seeing the fantasy from the other person controlling the situation with a victim card, emotional abuse they once felt and the same to get what they want regards… its everyone else who requires the correct education first, those who can learn will, those who can’t won’t.
Not everyone likes to do the ironing; some don’t mind it after five minutes, and others will avoid ironing at all costs, even if it is to help someone else… so try and imagine something big like accountability (for some) when everyone is cheering you on… or saying nothing.
The red flag can be in the environment for a number of reasons as well as inside the disruptor. Intervention is something to study and be done carefully as others may share the same traits and like where things are going or go along with something because it is easier.
Boundaries first, education, saying no, stepping back, letting go, and knowing the going no contact is very effective as everyone else’s mental health is the priority over the disruptor who chooses to manipulate, control or emotionally abuse instead of accountability.
Masking is the first marker to show they are far from changing.
‘Fear Of Exposure’ and the actions that go with means everyone else is playing catch up, they like what they do and they will do anything to keep the facade going because it all they want to know and nothing else.
The bully victim technique means they are not who you think they are and the control issues they have won’t go away overnight. Blame the victim and the professional victim card are very low level that many will never go too. Many would feel sick at the thought. Some use it without batting an eyelid with a fake smile that appears and disappears quickly, along with conflicting behaviour. Do the math.
Unless you are getting paid to help, you could be doing the exact opposite, giving the unhealthy attention they want while it drains you. It doesn’t sound like a holiday or a walk in the park, more like a total waste of time and what is unhealthy for one can be very unhealthy for two. Offer the solution for them to be educated on themselves, let them know you know, and then get back to the good stuff.
“Go see a professional about your behaviour; see what they say; I’m busy.”
Some matters are linked to being born or made and if disruptive, then the issue was present decades before you appear on the scene. Education is always key; with eight billion on the planet, the 1% to 3% who refuse accountability is not everyone.
The Feed Back Loop can mean nothing is getting in to help change and growth; the agenda feeds the perception, and the perception feeds the agenda, so the belief system is always right (allegedly), and others are objects to fit into place and to Fit The Narrative so triggers, reality, the short term future perception and all choices must be right and justified… at the expense of others… or not.
In some cases, matters are treatable. It’s important to go beyond the label and learn the who, what, why, when, and how, so the face value, words and actions are fully understood for what they actually mean. To sign off, its everyone else duty to learn fast. Hollywood can portray characters very differently for entertainment purposes.
References:
PsyhCentral - 5 Terrifying Ways Narcissists and Psychopaths Manufacture Chaos and Provoke You
Better Help - Understanding Classifications: Narcissist Vs. Psychopath
Psychopathy IS - Treating Psychopathy
PsyhCentral - Can Narcissistic Personality Disorder Be Treated?
Medical News Today - What is the difference between sociopathy and psychopathy?
APA - A Broader View of Psychopathy
Sociopathy vs Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Similarities & Differences
Psychological Disorder or Clinical Diagnosis?
Mayoclinic - Narcissistic personality disorder
Health Place - The Narcissistic Psychopath: Are Narcissists Psychopaths?
VeryWellMind - What Is a Psychopath?
Psychology Today - Narcissist or Psychopath—How Can You Tell?
DRG Explains - Narcissistic Personality Disorder Treatment
Insights - 15 Signs You Work with a Narcissist, Machiavellian, or Psychopath
Choosing Therapy - Sociopath Vs. Psychopath Vs. Narcissist: What Is the Difference?
LH - Narcissist vs. Sociopath vs. Psychopath: What’s the Difference?
Southern Live Oak - Are Narcissism and Psychopathy Related?
Very Well Mind - How Sociopaths Are Different from Psychopaths
Nicabm - Treating Narcissism: How to Dissolve Narcissistic Defenses and Foster Client Vulnerability
Quote:
The dark triad, which consists of three sub-structures (narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism) (Paulhus and Williams, 2002), is a type of malicious mentality that primarily manifests as self-interest, aggressiveness, and ruthlessness (Mcdonald et al., 2012). Considering that psychopathy and antisocial personality disorder are similar but different in character, this study will emphasize and define psychopathy to distinguish them. Hare believes that the distinction between psychopathy and antisocial personality disorder is very important for clinicians and society (Hare, 1991; Gori et al., 2014). According to DSM-5, the basic characteristics of antisocial personality disorder are neglect and violation of the rights of others, manifested in irresponsibility, lack of self-accusation, pathological lying, lack of compassion, and aggressiveness (Gori et al., 2014; Gervasi et al., 2017). Psychopathy (or “primary psychopathy”) is a personality disorder characterized by lack of social norms, empathy and remorse. It is usually manifested by lack of anxiety, low withdrawal, impulse, guilt, manipulativeness and a persistent violation of social norms (Hare, 1991; Craparo et al., 2013; Gori et al., 2014).
