Domestic Abuse (subtle)
Summary: Labels, documented actions and legal definitions (study), all chargeable offenses, listed below.
If it is an emergency, go straight to the contact numbers listed below, more than 999 or 911. Check if your belief system is being gaslighted via reading the references.
The Mentality of an abuser can be universal for males and females; one may only do it behind closed doors, so pay attention to the ‘compensating behaviour’ to cover up various kinds of abuse, covert or overt, manipulative.
Fearless.org (Anonymous reporting on behalf of someone)
Childline (UK)
National Crime Agency - Children
LL - Gaslighting: Examining the Warning Signs
If you are stuck in Chapter 2, let go of the fix for a moment. Healing vs Trauma Bond 1 & 2
Psychology Today - The Risk Factors for Continuing the Cycle of Abuse
FOS - Complaints That Involve Economic And Domestic Abuse
Teenagers can find advice at Psych2go (numerous subjects to help spot something that might appear as camouflaged)
LL - Educating Young People on Love Bombing
Healthline - 12 Signs of Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome (and How to Get Help)
Question: Why do manipulators expose themselves?
Answer: The ideas they have about others, the deflections they create, come from a place internally; the self-deception that comes from trying to deceive others follows them around like a bad smell. For example, triangulation comes from being a coward, unable to face the truth. A defence mechanism exists to hide a lack of coping mechanisms. Face value conversation, body language, and core or lack of core choices are all traceable once you know what you are looking at. Adults were once teenagers who were one children. To spot a deceptive adult, look at the behaviour patterns and comments about the world and when their wants and needs are not met. Will that expose what age the emotional intelligence is stuck?
Many may not know that a fake adult has more compensating behaviour to hide a lack of something than to listen to the words that may suggest they have something. Self-deceiving, to some, is an art rather than face-to-fix; the unstable emotional cycles tend to give away someone it fakes aside from the blame-shifting, which simply suggests “I cannot process accountability if I can put it on you, then guilt and shame are not felt.” A manipulator, by definition, isn’t a genuine person; they choose to take a different route, trying to own other people’s perception rather than own their own mess. Remove the monitor to see the secondary device expose itself. Why remove? What is unhealthy for one will be unhealthy for two; the hidden mess they create is leaking, so the charm can’t keep it under lock and key. The mask slips, the control issues don't work, and the child hiding in the adult’s body that never grew up has wants and needs. Parents care for their children if they are black people. Some may carry a monitor only to see they are actually parenting something parasitic, which will try and make it look like something else so the needs are met.
One key skill is to study compensating behaviour; the usual behaviour is not going to have as many red flags. It's when something doesn't happen when pressure is applied; study the pressure; what is its purpose? Control. Control issues are linked to a hidden deep insecurity that wants to stay hidden, crazy, right? Lot of themes and cycles and how life is challenged and processed; your maturity is the one thing that is feared; you grow, they cannot. That realisation is the biggest fear a monitor has, being left behind on a life's journey; the facade is a shield.
True or False: Try some films and books; it's common knowledge you are about to find out that coercive control is a child’s game. The unfortunate fact, with many, control issues can come from an affected upbringing, and the cycle repeats. Not everyone's genetics can play a part, making people prone as well as what was witnessed. What is learned can be copied, so it is projected due to survival skills developing without balance, as balance wasn’t present. The abuse cycle can come from bad role modelling, as the perception only knows what it knows. Join the less obvious dots.
True or False: If the gaslighting stops working and they use triangulation via others (which is more abuse and more using others on a larger scale, smear, etc), they are still trying to own your perception. It is key to document how far a person is willing to go to cover up rather than fix. All actions and statements are a key indicators of how much personality disorder is present. If they want to damage networks and systems because they are hurting, and without seeing that would actually make matters worse… call the police on 999 or 911. You have a manipulator in your life that will stop at nothing as they cannot see it; it is them in a facade that is carrying the many secrets that would harm their own reputation… the last part is false, they know their actions would harm their own reputation, but like a child without balance, they see objects rather than people with lives, only how they feel and how they want everything.
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If on the fence, concerned, spotting signs that don’t seem to add up, repeated reactions, or odd perceptions never change, or someone is compensating something at the expense of their own health, educate fast, and make a plan… study the links to various agencies. Deceptive behaviour is designed ‘not’ to be identified and appear as something else, with odd reasoning as it will have biased, deceptive reasoning.
NeuroScience - 80% of Developmental Disorders Linked to Known Recessive Genes
“Learn the laws on disinformation, gaslighting, gossip, blameshifting, smear and deception manipulative behaviour to distract from something harmful. Claiming another person is doing the action that the deceptive person is doing (imagination issue, using what is in the mind already). Not being transparent or accountable is a red flag. A personality issue might be undiagnosed. Get professional advice.”
“Exploitation Entitlement. Pathological Narcissism.”
Psychology Today - Why Narcissists Feel So Entitled
Your Tango - 9 Signs You Have A Very Low-Quality Person In Your Life
True or False: “I love you, I miss you” - The giveaway is in the choice of words, me, me, me, offering internal processing along with conflicting behaviour and strange timing. A disorder always wants to mask and dismiss, avoid accountability at all costs to regain control, directly or through others. Love does something else.
True or False: A person with affective and cognitive empathy will think one way with accountability, consideration and long-term choices, a person without will do something else when fear of exposure is triggered. Feedback is not an option; the lie behind the eyes is not processed in any way; it may be put on to someone else instead, guilt and shame are not in the equation, only “why me?” or “if I am hurting, so must they.”
Definitions:
Getcourtready - The Dynamics of Narcissism and Co-Narcissism
True or False: Deceptive actions and statements - disinformation & zero transparency link to high levels of Narcissism. Using others as a shield is linked to Machiavellian and Factor One Psycopathy.
Emotional abuse* -
Mocking you, calling you hurtful names or using derogatory words about you,
(“I’m joking”. A known narcissistic downplay, too sensitive, masking, hurt people hurt other people for stimulation)
Sulking or refusing to talk or be kind until you do something they want (silent treatment to avoid accountability)
Making you doubt your own sanity. This is known as gaslighting. A perpetrator may gaslight you into thinking that you are remembering things wrong or that you are misinterpreting things, later making you believe their version of events is true. This behaviour is often used to manipulate. (denying truth, gatekeeping, false claims, false stories)
Harass or follow you, appear at places they shouldn’t without confirmation, children’s schools without warning.
Belittle you, or put you down? (on-going chips and pokes, stimulation, on purpose over time, subtle)
Blame you for the abuse or arguments? (only seeing the reaction to them, not seeing their core first action)
Deny that abuse is happening, or downplay it? (what are you on about, that didn’t happen, I didn’t know)
A parent not protecting the child from a sibling or adult? (a caregiver by law must protect, not turn a blind eye)
Isolate you from your family and friends? (keep a married person in a facade, trauma bond, other’s don’t feel subtly welcome)
Stop you going to college or work? Or expect you to work when they don’t and make false statements to stay at home or from working to share the responsibility.
Make unreasonable demands for your attention? (narcissistic supply, forcing attention in one direction or wanting an excessive amount of items, ignoring the cost, needs to be met or silent treatment, rage, not understanding dopamine needs and underlying issues)
Accuse you of flirting or having affairs? (extension - false claims of cheating to others, different stories, damage)
Tell you what to wear, who to see, where to go, and what to think? (control living space arrangement, music, tv, presentation, emotional or silent treatment if needs not met in public or after a public event)
Control your money, or not give you enough to buy food or other essential things, luxuries earned?
Making abuse a norm or acceptable, carry on as if it never happened. Letting siblings/work abuse continuously without a change, education or add boundaries, gain external help.
Monitor your social media profiles, share photos or videos of you without your consent or use GPS locators to know where you are? Wanting to know where you are at specific times to confirm to the abuser’s timeline or sulk.
Verbal abuse* -
Verbal abuse is the use of harsh or insulting language directed at a person. You might be called names or constantly put down by your partner. Trying to gain upmanship, feel more dominant, defensive over being wrong.
Coercive and controlling behaviour, deceptive and blameshift, under the radar.
Controlling and coercive behaviour are forms of emotional abuse. They often go together, but are slightly different.
Controlling behaviour: A range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain, depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behaviour.
Coercive behaviour: A continuing act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.
Coercion is a pattern of behaviour designed to make someone feel intimidated, scared, humiliated or threatened.
Controlling behaviour happens when someone sets out to make the victim subordinate or dependent on them by cutting them off from their support networks, regulating their behaviour and reducing their independence. Making visitors feel slightly uncomfortable, enough to have fewer visits, but not enough to be obvious. Charming others so the deception appears as taste.
Economic abuse is included in the legal definition of domestic abuse: A definition of economic abuse is also included in law. This means that the police and other agencies should be more aware of economic abuse and are more likely to consider it under the controlling or coercive behaviour offence. Deceptive statements to gain or hide finances at the expense of others, lying about how they gained information and how they use it. Hidden survival justifications, exclusions of information to gain an exchange. Tort of Deceit. (see below)
Examples of these behaviours include: Withholding money, doing the opposite, deceptive to gain money, lying about balances and uses, hiding debts and asking for more, blackmailing, constantly criticising someone, checking up on or monitoring someone, isolating someone from friends and family, and playing mind games such as gaslighting. These behaviours make it very difficult for the person to leave the relationship as the are compensated until the mind breaks.
Controlling or coercive behaviour is now a criminal offence under the Serious Crime Act 2015. Many who are accountable for this behaviour deny it. Gather your evidence and report it. Regardless of how subtle, it is present for a reason.
“People process trauma in different ways, some project on to others, blameshift to hide a copied pathway.”
Psychological abuse* -
Psychological or mental abuse is when someone is subjected or exposed to a situation that can result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, depression or post-traumatic stress disorder.
Intimidation, quiet nasty, rage, child, sibling, pregnant woman, disabled man, projection and aggression, any type of aggression, enjoying people's cry, creating a distraction watching people argue from the sidelines to cover tracks.
Financial abuse* - Lying about actions with false statements, distract or withhold, re-direct away while doing something they chose not to process as it would conflict with image or how others perceive while needing control with victimhood.
Coercive and controlling behaviour and gaslighting/emotional abuse
Digital/online abuse
‘Honour’ based abuse (be like us, come back to me)
Physical abuse
Forced marriage
Sexual abuse/cheating and justifying its purpose/falsely claiming the victim cheats and harming over time
Sibling, cross marriage, parent to child, relatives, work, neighbours.
Quote: "The environmental causes (such as shared, and non-shared environment) that contribute to the development of Machiavellianism were childhood maltreatment and neglect, social reinforcement of manipulative behaviours from an early age, and poor family functioning." Wiki - Machiavellianism
Overmedicating or under medicating, or changing a medication without telling you*
Theft of state benefits or any other financial income, using false details to claim while hiding finances
Doing things to exacerbate or take advantage of a disability or health condition, such as smoking indoors, leaving unreachable windows open in winter, or refusing to allow you to go to the toilet, left in a room with one meal all day in noisy environments.
Refusing to assist you with caregiving responsibilities, including providing adequate meals and nutrition, dressing, bathing, access to transport and cleaning duties
Isolating you from friends, family, support workers and support groups, ignoring, claiming a drain. Important note - NO CONTACT (check your safety network), NO CONTACT is a protection system to avoid further emotional manipulative direct or indirect abuse or gather secondary evidence with professional guidance. To spot a truam bond linked to a childhood perception being masked - A marriage partner may have a completely different work life to their home life, simply to slot into a trauma bond with control issues present, not a loving relationship with balance and 100% consideration. Control issues are linked to deep insecurity, not confidence and a high level of self-esteem. Control issues stem from feeling a need to have control rather than respect other people life with empathy in place. Always see beyond a relationship presentation if a person is drained and the other acts with conflicting behaviour in different situations. Speak to a professional if you are concerned for someone.
Saying that you are ugly or useless because of your disability, or calling you stupid because you don’t understand, financial deception
Humiliating, degrading or dehumanising you for stimulation via unhealthy comparison
The Role of Flying Monkeys in Domestic Abuse*
Flying monkeys in the context of domestic abuse play various roles, all of which serve to reinforce the abuser’s control and manipulation:
Spread Disinformation: They may spread lies and rumours about the victim, often echoing the narcissist’s narrative to discredit and isolate the victim further.
Harassment and Intimidation: Flying monkeys can also engage in direct harassment, sending messages or making calls on behalf of the abuser, serving to intimidate and control the victim.
Spying and Reporting Back: In some cases, they act as the eyes and ears of the abuser, reporting back on the victim’s activities and state of mind.
Enabling Denial: Their actions can provide the abuser with plausible deniability, as the abuser can claim they are not directly responsible for the actions of others.
Test Question - If marked wrong, review the Smear or Flying Monkeys web pages, seek advice locally or call 101 or 999 or 911 (US). The unfortunate experience is an undiagnosed disorder is trying to gaslight others to ‘fit a narrative’ with detachment and control issues (assuming they own someone else’s perception at any cost) which can will harm an uneducated person with Truth Bias if the emotional abuser is persistent. They will go on to harm networks, another giveaway that something is damaging in a masked internal thinking system/equation.
True or False: The full definition is a narcissistic smear. The internal mechanism operates externally, showing a lack of empathy for others, an internally damaged feedback loop, control issues, avoiding processing and accountability, blame shifts to damage truth and facts to continue to mask and gaslight through others when the target/victim chose not to accept a personality disorder (unusually undiagnosed) or continue deception or self-deception. A hurt person hurts other people to avoid a lie/action, or behaviour. Guilt and shame are put on to others as the child in the adult cannot process reality with balance or the perception of others, which is different to the carefully crafted false self-construct inside a facade built over time from childhood experiences of abuse or no accountability or both. Fantasy and abuse behind closed doors, sometimes in public. The giveaway is simple: Using others and others unable to go beyond face value. Exposure on numerous accounts, all included, extends and becomes an abuser while the core negative disruptor tries to stay clean, further secondary evidence linking to the coverup primary evidence. More than one narcissistic person will expose themselves, and more than one unbiased personality disorder will expose themselves. Not every adult has an adult mind due to childhood development. A Professional victim can be present as a tool.
SS - Beware of Narcissistic Generosity
PsychCentral - 6 Reasons Why Narcissists Try to Appear Caring and Helpful
True or False: Biases appear through fear of accountability, hiding rather than processing due to not really knowing right from wrong, only the emotions felt from shame. Confused by the masked disorder with affected prosocial skills and missing empathy. If an adult cannot process accountability and tries to hide and use others, it’s a red flag.
Legal Terms:
Fraudulent Misrepresentation - (Deception, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting) - Where a false statement is made, which the statement maker knew was false or was reckless as to whether it was true or false, and the innocent party is induced into a contract and as a result, suffers loss.
Breaches of Fiduciary Duty - This can arise in relationships of trust.
Dishonest Assistance - (Flying Monkeys, Using others) - Where a party has a dishonest state of mind and provides assistance to another in breaching a fiduciary duty.
Knowing Receipt - Where a party knowingly receives money or other assets which have been disposed of by another in breach of fiduciary duty or in breach of trust, and where it is unconscionable for them to retain that money or those assets.
Tort of Deceit* - (Gaslighting, Deception) - Where a false is made, which the statement maker knew to be untrue or was reckless as to its truth, with the intention of the other party relying on it and as a result that party suffers loss.
Tort of Deceit*
The defendant made a representation which was false.
The defendant knew that the representation was false.
The defendant intended that the representation would induce the claimant to act.
The claimant suffered a loss.
Unlawful Means Conspiracy - (Gaslighting, Deception, Gatekeeping, Emotional Abuse) - Where there is concerted action between two or more people using unlawful means, and where they have knowledge of the unlawfulness and an intention to injure and they participate in an overt act in pursuance of the agreed action causing actual damage to the innocent party.
Inducing or Procuring Breach of Contract - Where a party (A) interferes with another party’s (B) contract with another (C), and there is then a breach of the contract between B and C, where A has knowledge of the contract between B and C, and A’s interference causes damage to B and/or C.
Fraud Act 2006*
This Act defines fraud as a criminal offence and states that a person found guilty can be fined or imprisoned for up to six months on summary conviction, or up to ten years on indictment.
Sentencing guidelines
The court will consider the seriousness of the offense, the financial circumstances of the offender, and the amount of money involved when determining the appropriate fine. The fine should be proportionate to the objectives of punishment, deterrence, and removing the gain from the offense.
Examples of fraud
Fraud by false representation can include using a stolen document as your own, or using your own credit card when you know you've exceeded the credit limit. Asking others to pay their timely debts.
Every action and every type has been documented, cross-referenced, and studied. Human behaviour has been around long before the internet. The important element is a victim is not blamed, targeted or conditioned to go along with something or someone to hide undiagnosed matters. An accountability issue can mean someone is being targeted. Speak to the authorities and professionals trained and educated on the subtle signs of domestic and various forms of emotional abuse. Apply boundaries of any kind to protect mental health.
Indirect (flying monkeys - study the trick) and direct, all subtle or over time to add conformity of something unhealthy for one, it will be for two. Some people’s development issues are still present long after the first 18 years due to conditioning or what is influenced about right or wrong, or not knowing the difference. Take note of cycles and patterns along with perception and avoid change and accountability… the use of others.
True or False: Conformity is linked to insecurity at the core. Those who want/demand or expect it, have a fear of having none in themselves or their life when triggered. The bully mentality masks insecurity and a coward who is in direct when fear of exposure activates them. Apply a mirror, inducing to expose, and applying boundaries all show an adult is not present, or they would do something different.
In the past, subtle domestic abuse wasn’t seen in the same way as it is now; this includes female to male, female to female and sibling to sibling… parent to child, child to parent - which can lead to disassociation issues developing. Certain types of domestic abuse are subtle for a reason and done over time, linked to control issues… although wrong, there is always a coverup and repeated… it’s a core issue past on and projected. Recognising in-direct abuse early is key, and shows there is a deep core issue beyond a masked agenda and wanting to keep hands clean and continue without change and accountability. Victim card influencers can be very dangerous - blaming the victim is a tool without consideration of harm. In fact, to some, harming can offer stimulation, a release from feeling guilt and shame. “I like it when they cry”. Blame shifters usually witnessed an abusive parent do the same to them, not always, fear of exposure trigger deceptive people in different ways. At the core they are denying they are the same as their past abuser… but they learned it from someone. Indirect abuse leads to charges on a bigger scale, exposing a number of disorders and perceptions that group together. If something is missing, it may bring comfort in a group or herd.
True or False: Deceptive behaviour is designed ‘not’ to be identified, or camouflaged, and doesn’t happen all the time, in cycles, as triggers are felt.
True or False: The inversion - A manipulative person exposes themselves, doubling down when others step back.
Cycles can be present, 3, 5,10, 20, 30% + emotional abuse is still a chargeable offence. 3 minutes per day may seen a small number, over one year that is 18.25hrs that will effect your neural system, and amygdala, adds depression or confusion as to why a person has conflicting timed negative strategies. Love bombing is not a compensator. Chipping and poking over time is a key indicator of an undiagnosed disorder, the past repeating itself, projection with unhealthy comparison, self-esteem issues, upmanship, lack of balance and self-awareness looking for stimulation. Hurt people hurting other people, copying a bad role model from there past, a family member usually or school. The bully at home becomes the bully at school. Not in every cast, something sticks with some, others put an end to bullying, as at the core, its coward projecting.
Below dealing with direct emotional abuse, indirect abuse is designed to hide what goes on behind closed doors, using others to induce guilt, while keeping hands clear so others are charged if they are… transactional and delusional, and all parties have to go on record which means a hurt person hurting their targeted victim to keep truth from being processed, sees everyone around them differently to what many first assume.
Masking disorders from childhood bad role modelling is a generational issue mixed with genetics; enmeshment pushes blame away so the core doesn’t have to process. A residue is left with all parties so step back if someone is trying to use you to harm someone, apply conformity with any kind of influence with aggressive, victim card, or distraction. Those that mask have been one step ahead… but bound by a bias when they go too far, document and always double-check so charges are not brought against third parties.
Disinformation - Keep the truth out of context regardless, big lie, big coverup to distract, there is a processing, guilt and shame reaction happening at the core, triggers. Be mindful of indirect gifting to questionable actions and statements when they surface. The deceptive gift may be used to influence you while they step back at a later date, use your position instead of theirs. Image control and to mask the other 50%. This is a well-documented trick linked to facade development without empathy, but to appear generous and use it later. Conflicting behaviour at different times. If others are used, then a secret or action is in existence that harms others. Education is key to join the dots.
Note: Do be mindful that if more than one person lacks empathy for others, they will not process emotional abuse correctly… what can’t be felt cannot be seen or cared about. Coverups may begin with “you are too sensitive”. Call the authorities, you may be playing catch up to something more troubling. Disorders with a history that mask.
True or False: A deceptive person with an undiagnosed disorder may secretly think their approach is something more than others. The self-deception blocks external feedback, so they continue beyond boundaries, parameters, and using others if cowardly to gain something.
True or False: Flying monkeys may have issues they fear being exposed, a trigger as their morals sit with being deceptive in some way, others may only think through influence, and a manipulator will know who they want to use. Genuine people tend to see beyond with a healthy comparison.
If drained, not knowing your reality anymore is a sign of internal controlling within a facade called gaslighting (denying, deceiving). Manipulative gaslighting is designed to keep others in line via a ‘fit the narrative’ issue. Leave the group or relationship, take a break, get advice fast. Deceptive behaviour is designed ‘not’ to be identified, camouflaged, and doesn’t happen not all the time - others may not have the education to spot the subtle signs.
The victim’s mind may lose direction and give in and accept, or justify with a harmful tolerance. Observe if someone is taking advantage of someone while continuing as though nothing is happening, distracting with lies about the victim. Do not take at face value, a deceptive person is watching their charm distract with any means necessary. A victim card or be the one who is drained and cheated on. They may have made stories up to justify their detachment or a way to inflict an unrelated situation hurting them onto someone. Childhood issues or perceptions.
Definition - Controlling or Coercive Behaviour in an Intimate or Family Relationship
Subtle domestic abuse is a chargeable offence, including emotional manipulation, fraudulent actions, deception, gaslighting, and intimidation. Damaging relations indirectly (use others) or directly. Lying brings its own charge as well as blaming the victim to contain the truth. Anyone who extends or covers up any form of abuse, however slight, is charged as well. This can happen in a group setting where others are used to triangulate the victim with guilt to accept what has happened regardless of the effect. Conditioned with years of directed attention or leverage or the victim card if caught.
Choosing Therapy - What Is a Narcissistic Family Structure? 10 Signs & How to Deal
TNC - Narcissistic Families – Hidden In Plain Sight
“Image is everything, no boundaries, control issues, secret-keeping, hide fraud and abuse.”
Labels: Cohesive, subtle, emotional, gaslighting, smear, avoidance, deflection, coverup, appear without warning to cover up, blameshift, blame the victim.
Opposite tactic - Blaming others for the things they do themselves is linked to a lack of empathy with a damaged feedback loop. Only experiencing their own emotions, not their actions, which in many cases stimulates the emotional abuser - hurt people hurting other people. The past is projected. “Men or women did it in the 60’s.”
Quotes: “What are you talking about” “That didn’t happen” “I’m Joking” “Now you are just showing off”
Detachment: "Some people don't alter their views to fit the facts... They alter the facts to fit their views"
Targeting, attempting to control under the radar (control issues). If failed, injury and collapse are projected on others. A false self and fragile ego at the core without accountability processing or awareness. When triggered, self-destructive and blamshifting to make someone else suffer with a distraction. Gaslighting and smearing to gain control of their reality and hide behaviour that contradicts with a projected image. The child’s emotional development is still present with an unbalanced, unrealistic view of themselves and others around. How many people realise that subtle abuse is intertwined with emotional development and childhood experiences? How do certain children behave at age eight? Looks are deceiving while charm.
The subtle abuser will most likely have damage in their childhood without a considered development, so the projection onto others is copied by bad role modelling mixed with genetics precursors and an affected childhood perception that has triggers and projections with absolute thinking patterns such as “all men or all women are the same“. The main issue is in the present and to find ways to create boundaries against conflicting behaviour patterns, no what triggers, and to record evidence as subtle abuse it considered and timed. Factor one traits - intending to harm for conformity and attention.
Study of conduct disorder, ASPD and narcissistic injury, supply, and Cluster B conflicts in development suggests a simple answer: Remove the target, and watch what happens. Let the target’s mind re-cover.
Masking can’t keep it all in.. the issue is only hidden…something gives… triggers, and the mask slips when a facade feels tested. Children are a sponge, if the behaviour is experienced and suppressed, it stays in adulthood. This leads to a lack of emotional regulation in adulthood.
Subtle/emotional abuse is a chargeable offence. Be wise to spot the conflicting behaviour and coverup as well as the primary evidence, the direct and indirect harm, especially indirect; everything is on purpose and can be linked to various types of narcissistic conditions, such as Covert and Vulnerable… under the radar.
True or False: Subtle abusers are good at covering their tracks, as they watched a parent do the same.
True or False: Control issues are linked to insecurity and low self-esteem rather than a fake grandiose, or deceptive nature on the outside.
True or False: The human mind recovers once outside a gaslighting culture to mask, control, defect, deny, force alignment or be emotional.
True or False: Truth, triggers and actions, pay attention to the deflection and blameshift. There are more deceptive actions hiding to cause fear of exposure. A lack of accountability is at play at the expense and use of others. Transaction with control issues needing to suppress any means necessary. An action to something, not a reaction to nothing. Hurt deceptive people hurt others in a very particular way... it's all been documented in the pattern of deceptive behaviour hiding in the mind and facade.
References 1:
Quote: "Some people don't alter their views to fit the facts... They alter the facts to fit their views" was suggested by Darren F Magee, written by Chris Boucher - Sydney Newman - Donald Wilson
Womans Aid - I’m not sure if my relationship is healthy
GOV - UK - Domestic abuse: how to get help
NIH - Emotional abuse in intimate relationships: The role of gender and gender
NIH - Emotional abuse in intimate relationships: The role of gender and age
NHS - Domestic violence and abuse
Breeze - Break free from childhood trauma
LG - Adult Safe Guarding and Domestic Abuse
NICABM - Treating Narcissism: How to Dissolve Narcissistic Defenses and Foster Client Vulnerability
CH - Flying Monkeys. Unravelling the Origins of a Term in the Context of Domestic Abuse
References 2:
Sanders - What is civil fraud?
SM - What is the sentence for Obtaining Money by Deception in the UK?
RR - Civil Fraud Lawyers: Bringing or Defending a Claim
CPS - Controlling or Coercive Behaviour in an Intimate or Family Relationship
PC - ‘Controlling or coercive behaviour’: Is the law fit for purpose?
Gov - Controlling or coercive behaviour: statutory guidance framework (accessible)
Gov - Controlling or Coercive Behaviour
SS - Beware of Narcissistic Generosity
PsychCentral - 6 Reasons Why Narcissists Try to Appear Caring and Helpful
BFL - Your Legal Guide to Divorcing a Narcissist – Narcissistic Abuse Explained
CH - Flying Monkeys. Unravelling the Origins of a Term in the Context of Domestic Abuse
UK Information -
Police (emergency) 999
24 hour domestic violence helpline 0808 2000 247 www.nationaldomestic violencehelpline.org.uk
National LGBT Domestic Abuse Helpline 0300 999 5428 or 0800 999 5428
National Stalking Helpline 0808 802 0300 http://www.stalkinghelpline.org/faq/aboutthe-law/
Stop Online Abuse www.stoponlineabuse.org.uk For help to apply for a nonmolestation order
CourtNav www.courtnav.org.uk
Find a lawyer The Law Society 0207 320 5650
www.lawsociety.org.uk/find-a-solicitor
Ministry of Justice 020 3334 3555
www.find-legal-advice.justice.gov.uk
Resolution (to find a family law specialist lawyer) 020 3841 0300 www.resolution.org.uk
Public Access Portal www.directaccessportal.co.uk
Cluster B is a group of personality disorders that are characterized by dramatic, impulsive, and erratic behaviours, as well as unpredictable emotional responses. The four main types of cluster B personality disorders are:
Antisocial personality disorder (ASPD)
A pervasive pattern of irresponsible behaviour, disregard for other's rights, and lack of empathy
Borderline personality disorder (BPD)
A pervasive pattern of instability in relationships, self-image, and mood, as well as fear of abandonment and unhealthy attachments
Histrionic personality disorder (HPD)
A pervasive pattern of attention-seeking behaviour, excessive emotionality, and an impressionistic style of speech
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)
A pervasive pattern of grandiosity, lack of empathy, and a need for admiration
Some signs of a cluster B personality disorder include:
Relationship challenges
Frequent conflicts with others
Out-of-control emotions
Trouble relating to others
Impulsivity
Problems at work or school
Putting yourself in risky situations
Excessive drug or alcohol use
Conflicts with the law
While cluster B personality disorders are not curable, there are many options to help manage symptoms, including medication, psychotherapy, and behavioural therapies.
