Lying vs Delusion
Summary: Connected. Assuming that anything is acceptable because it was a personal thought without question.
The key takeaway is this, if the victim does not face the truth, the lair most definitely won’t… they will have been lying for a long time, and not everyone can spot it straight away due to victim card tactics when needed to cover up. It’s everyone else who becomes educated first.
Before you read, have a little insight, it may help centre matters: Masked Emotional Instability
Side Note: How does one inform a lair about a lair? Someone has to see an opportunity to go beyond a flawed perception and feel the effects of a transformation and better mental and physical health benefits.
Hare Psychopathy Checklist (Original) (PCL-22)
If you tell a lair ‘you are lying’ note well before that boundary. Slippery from themselves, slippery from everyone.
Psychology Today - The Risk Factors for Continuing the Cycle of Abuse
True or False: Covert narcissists are the worst lairs for a number of reasons. The actions go far back and the victim card is used as a tool.
Insight:
A disruptive liar fears exposure because they cannot 100% from themselves, a residue will follow, the short-term choices will catch up once everyone is educated on what to spot without truth bias.
Childhood thinking patterns are present. Internal aggression will surface when feedback is offered that questions the false self-construct, fit the narrative or choices that may give the impression it’s a superpower (delusion, grandiose).
They may also assume anything is allowed, it worked in the past, everyone must slot in line eventually, gaslighting one-on-one or through flying monkeys is an internal control issue on the external.
Detachment with a need to live through fantasy due to truths in the past not being processed, development was affected, and growth ignored. This is why professionals are required after a number of situations affect others.
Observe how the goal or lie is protected to protect the ego from shame, guilt and accountability. The biological age and presentation is not a reflection of the emotional maturity/intelligence and how others are perceived.
True or False: A self-deluding person must lie to themselves before they lie to others.
True or False: The public image is the priority over everything as guilt and shame would feel like the whole timeline attacks the ego simultaneously. Narcissistic injury or collapse will present itself.
True or False: The ‘fit the narrative is a mind filter to suit the delusional view of reality and others and how they can accommodate something not genuine or authentic.
True or False: A Certain charm is a mask and a tester on others to see who will go alone with what the lairs mind needs.
True or False: Those with NPD, don’t realise they have it.
Lying starts in childhood and is linked to certain childhoods and bad role modelling. Detachment and fantasy issues come from a core issues and defence systems that should have faded with the correct input, insight and good role modelling… it goes deeper, and it isn’t something everyone can fix; professional guidance is key.
References: (more will follow shortly)
Psychology Today - Ways to Tell When a Narcissist Is Lying
BFL - Your Legal Guide to Divorcing a Narcissist – Narcissistic Abuse Explained
CH - Flying Monkeys. Unravelling the Origins of a Term in the Context of Domestic Abuse
The Role of Flying Monkeys in Domestic Abuse
Flying monkeys in the context of domestic abuse play various roles, all of which serve to reinforce the abuser’s control and manipulation:
Spread Disinformation: They may spread lies and rumours about the victim, often echoing the narcissist’s narrative to discredit and isolate the victim further.
Harassment and Intimidation: Flying monkeys can also engage in direct harassment, sending messages or making calls on behalf of the abuser, serving to intimidate and control the victim.
Spying and Reporting Back: In some cases, they act as the eyes and ears of the abuser, reporting back on the victim’s activities and state of mind.
Enabling Denial: Their actions can provide the abuser with plausible deniability, as the abuser can claim they are not directly responsible for the actions of others.
Search Engine: AI Overview
Yes, covert narcissists are known to be master liars. They can be cunning, deceitful, and manipulative, and they may lie to alienate their victims and influence observers. They may also lie to keep secrets and avoid confrontation. Covert narcissists may lie about themselves, their exes, their careers, and their accomplishments. They may also use veiled insults and backhanded compliments, or omit information that would be helpful to others. For example, they may ask a friend for favors, knowing that the friend wants something from them, but then withhold information that they already gave the tickets to someone else.
Covert narcissists may also use other behaviours to control others, such as:
Lacking empathy
Using guilt trips and shame
Expecting others to care for them or solve their problems
Gaslighting, such as being critical but making it sound like it's coming from a place of concern
Covert narcissists lie just as much as their overt counterparts. However, coverts tend to dodge the spotlight. They use self-deprecation to deflect attention away from what they are doing. Therefore, their mendacity often goes unnoticed.
References:
FHE - Pathological Lying Can Occur with These Mental Disorders
RJ - Surprising effects of telling lies on our mental health
Psychology Today - The Truth About Lying and What It Does to the Body
BB - The Impact of Lying: Is It Really a Big Deal?
Psychology Today - The Psychology and Impact of Lying and Self-Deception
NIH - Influence of False Self-Presentation on Mental Health
Medium - The Psychological Impact of Lies:
MPC - How Lying Can Impact Your Mental Health
Science Direct - The physiology of (dis)honesty: does it impact health?
