Documenting behavior
Summary: Observation requires education on what is actually happening rather than what is assumed to be happening. Affected childhood, either no accountability or a form of abuse and no growth. Manipulative people are made in a cycle due to bad role modelling.
Primary evidence - Ongoing questionable actions and statements.
Secondary evidence - Fear of exposure, cover-up, blame-shift, suppress, denial, pressure, doubling down, distraction, smear.
FOS - Complaints That Involve Economic And Domestic Abuse
Psychology Today - The Risk Factors for Continuing the Cycle of Abuse
Someone is not hiding ‘nothing’, they are trying to hide ‘something’.
Before you read, have a little insight, it may help centre matters: Masked Emotional Instability
Considerations when joining the dots: Statements, action, conversation, masking, patterns, development, culture, influence, hidden agenda, external intention, bias, passive and overt aggression, fantasy, authenticity, genuine, empathy, lack of, accountability, self-esteem, influence, charm, deception, attention seeking, supply, conflicting behaviours, finances… tone, tempo and body language. Contradiction, bypass, avoidance, using people, numerous feedback, truth and fact.
Choosing Therapy - Narcissistic Injury: Definition, Signs, & Examples
PsychCentral - Spotting and Dealing with a Smear Campaign by a Narcissist
Undiagnosed malignant personality disorders work in a cycle or pattern. They may still have childhood thinking patterns present due to a development issue internally, externally or both. Bad role modelling means less good role modelling at important times in childhood. Genetics can mean that generations may follow or avoid an enmeshment dysfunctional system that hides a core issue.
What is narcissistic injury? (A reaction to feedback or fear of exposure)
What is a trauma bond? (trying to get others to go along with the ‘fit the narrative’)
True or False: By the nature of Denial, undiagnosed personality disorders try and avoid the truth and facts to keep away from guilt and shame. The false self-construct and facade want the 'fit the narrative' concept in the mind to be honoured, even at the expense of others, until they catch on. The same goes for the trauma bond relationship; what is unhealthy for one, is unhealthy for two.
Without education, compensating behaviour, professional victim card, bully-victim cycle, blameshifting, blame the victim, a lack of empathy for others can be dressed up by a highly manipulative person or group.
Over time, this essay will extend. Many elements can be found already, but there is nothing new to discuss as behaviour has been documented for a very long time.
The difference in noting what something is can be related to how much knowledge can be applied. There is no magic trick; only the level of awareness is given by education.
An educated empath may be very receptive due to high levels of effective empathy and high levels of curiosity beyond the self and others. I am in belief a person can come around to spot the difference in an authentic agenda and a faker. Why fake? Childhood. No accountability or something else. Both link to development and something else happening instead.
Being a detective requires patience and going beyond the perception, the difference can be from how a human perceives at age 5, 10,15, 25 and 45. If you don’t think their is something camouflaged so it couldn’t possible true… red flag. But also, think to how the world was perceptive when 10, then compare to 25… there is a difference. If not… red flag.
True or False: Personality disorders operate with deregulation; disruptive types trying something on have an agenda, masking the agenda or masking zero empathy for others is part of the process and cycle… and there is a cycle due to development or lack of in the moral core. Cyles and patterned behaviour are linked to no development, no growth, and no accountability.
Does that sound like an absolute?
True or False: Imagine someone is processing with a different circuit board. How that circuit board is made is key.
Does that sound like documentation has to be considered beyond face value and go back to the start to know the core?
Insight
Pre-Fear of Exposure
Fear of Exposure
Post-Fear of Exposure
Authentic Behaviour vs Compensating Behaviour
False Self-construct
Facade
Choosing Therapy - 10 Signs of a Female Psychopath (and men but are different)
True of False: A manipulator wants their compensating behaviour to appear authentic; this would mean they are aware that something is wrong and is requires a coverup. But not wrong in the traditional sense.
What happens when narcissistic injury is induced?
What happens when narcissistic rage is induced?
What is the purpose of inducing a narcissistic cycle?
Usually, to expose what goes on behind closed doors and to prove a complete narcissistic cycle exists beyond what that person has already exposed…
True or False: People who wear masks also need to be aware (if possible due to bottlenecking their own perception) about those who wear the ‘mask of sanity’. A deeper issue from childhood that has fuel for irreversible damage via others. (This one is key to understanding flying monkeys)
BFL - Your Legal Guide to Divorcing a Narcissist – Narcissistic Abuse Explained
CH - Flying Monkeys. Unravelling the Origins of a Term in the Context of Domestic Abuse
The Role of Flying Monkeys in Domestic Abuse
Flying monkeys in the context of domestic abuse play various roles, all of which serve to reinforce the abuser’s control and manipulation:
Spread Disinformation: They may spread lies and rumours about the victim, often echoing the narcissist’s narrative to discredit and isolate the victim further.
Harassment and Intimidation: Flying monkeys can also engage in direct harassment, sending messages or making calls on behalf of the abuser, serving to intimidate and control the victim.
Spying and Reporting Back: In some cases, they act as the eyes and ears of the abuser, reporting back on the victim’s activities and state of mind.
Enabling Denial: Their actions can provide the abuser with plausible deniability, as the abuser can claim they are not directly responsible for the actions of others.
References:
CT - Narcissistic Injury: Definition, Signs, & Examples
SimplyPsychology - What is Narcissistic Injury?
PsychCentral - Narcissistic Injuries: What They Are and More
CT - Narcissistic Rage: Signs, Triggers, & How to Respond
VeryWellMind - What Is Narcissistic Rage?
Psychology Today - 8 Signs of Narcissistic Rage
VeryWellMind - How to Identify and Escape a Narcissistic Abuse Cycle
CT - What Is a Narcissistic Abuse Cycle & How Does It Work?
SimplyPyschology - Stages of a Narcissistic Relationship
Psychology Today - What Vulnerable Narcissists Really Fear
CT - What Is Narcissistic Supply?
PsychCentral - What is Narcissistic Supply?
Psychology Today - The Concept of Narcissistic Supply
VeryWellMind - Narcissistic Supply Explained
Choosing Therapy - Narcissistic Injury: Definition, Signs, & Examples
PsychCentral - Spotting and Dealing with a Smear Campaign by a Narcissist
Direct and Indirect forms of abuse, how to spot the history when matters change tactics.
Test Question - Smear, what is it and why does it happen in childhood, families, schools, places of work, going undetected? What is its design, why does it happen, and why is it a secondary sign of something more harmful? It is important to realise when playing catch up to matters of concern. Smear can occur as a tool used after the direct damage/gaslighting/various forms of emotional or physical abuse have been employed over time with mixed aggression, so the question behaviour continues undetected with training or education to spot the signs. Using in-direct methods linked to control issues to extend guilt or shame onto someone with emotional abuse/pressure can be an indicator of deceptive high-functioning behaviour appearing in the secondary evidence in the abuse timeline.
True or False: The full definition is a narcissistic smear. The internal mechanism operates externally, showing a lack of empathy for others, an internally damaged feedback loop, control issues, avoiding processing and accountability, blame shifts to damage truth and facts to continue to mask and gaslight through others when the target/victim chose not to accept a personality disorder (unusually undiagnosed) or continue deception or self-deception. A hurt person hurts other people to avoid a lie/action, or behaviour. Guilt and shame are put on to others as the child in the adult cannot process reality with balance or the perception of others, which is different to the carefully crafted false self-construct inside a facade built over time from childhood experiences of abuse or no accountability or both. Fantasy and abuse behind closed doors, sometimes in public. The giveaway is simple: Using others and others unable to go beyond face value. Exposure on numerous accounts, all included, extends and becomes an abuser while the core negative disruptor tries to stay clean, further secondary evidence linking to the coverup primary evidence. More than one narcissistic person will expose themselves, and more than one unbiased personality disorder will expose themselves. Not every adult has an adult mind due to childhood development. A Professional victim can be present as a tool.
Test question response - If marked wrong even after presenting key markers, review the Smear or Flying Monkeys web pages, then seek advice locally or call 101 or 999 or 911 (US). The confusion you might be experiencing has a design not to see who is causing harm over time to your mental health over time. Gaslighting has a design and has an agenda to go undetected, a game to one person with mixed behaviour, very harmful to another. The unfortunate experience is linked to an undiagnosed disorder is trying to influence others to ‘fit a narrative’ with detachment and control issues (assuming they own someone else’s perception at any cost), which can harm an uneducated person with Truth Bias (we grow up assuming with a positive comparison) for years while they repair from someone’s agenda, if the emotional abuser is persistent. They will go on to harm networks, another giveaway that something is damaging in a masked internal thinking system/equation. Indirect emotional abuse is equally as harmful as direct abuse; in many ways, it is the extension of the direct abuse to really cause damage with detachment and maintain control of a lie/action or a facade they the disruptor assumes is acceptable in their eyes. Their perception may have been formed a long time ago from bad role modelling.
