Observing Toxic People
Summary: Different people’s P.O.V. in one essay, via notes taken, some would like to pass on this strange event in life for guidance. Emotional intelligence and empathy might be a subject along with bad role modelling. You decide. Information straight from the internet, a movement to educate all the linked actions and statements.
Teenagers can find advice at Psych2go (numerous subjects to help spot something that might appear as camouflaged)
LL - Gaslighting: Examining the Warning Signs
True or False: The less internal deception, the less paranoia and blame-shifting. The false self-construct can’t contain everything that the undeveloped ego can’t process, guilt and shame. The damaged self-serving internal feedback loop that avoids accountability requires a narcissistic supply and unhealthy validation to prevent narcissistic injury. Gossip distracts from processing with unhealthy comparison at the core, it’s a double standard trick to avoid the agenda from being seen.
Psychology Today - The Risk Factors for Continuing the Cycle of Abuse
FOS - Complaints That Involve Economic And Domestic Abuse
GEE - 8 types of people who never deserve a second chance, according to psychology
Toxic = Perception issue. (Conversation over) Unable to process accountability… now get on with your day, as life is too short for…. stimulated, attention-seeking and damaging drama with covert aggression to distract from a shallow core :)
All research and links will follow shortly; the links offered have great lists to review, and get educated. One simple suggestion… do the opposite of toxic. If they go left, you go right, it works without failing… find out why.
“If you have a toxic person draining, wonder why they don’t acknowledge themselves correctly but have all the justifications to hand, it’s a lighthouse perception, looking once. Rarely in the right direction for any healthy amount of time… with sharp rocks that boats could crash into.”
Instead of videos, a screen grab for now. Spot the similarity in the observations below… pattern behaviour. Drama, drama, stimulation from…drama…empty shell many? It’s a tough one if the toxic element lacks self-awareness… step back.
Draining while deflecting, passive aggression is a sign of some unhealthy comparison underneath the mask of distraction.
An unfortunate subject and request… but the signs and red flags are clear once you know what you are looking at. Time to educate on how it happens and what they do… not everyone has an adult mind who appears as an adult.
Psychology - How Can You Tell If Someone Is an Absolute Narcissist?
True or False: Dampened emotional reactions to self-awareness, mature activation with feedback. What is not seen by the self cannot be seen by others without processing issues.
True or False: Gossip and smear are a trademark of a toxic person to mask an undiagnosed disorder connected to low awareness and low emotional intelligence.
Gossip & Smear: When matters are out of their control, the blame shift smear triggers as an extension of the usual gossiping routine. The gossiping keeps the internal processing away on to other people, so accountability isn’t even in an internal or external conversation.
The Giveaway: The lack of imagination can create the choice to use what they are doing… and claim someone else is doing it, so the guilt and shame are projected elsewhere, targeting with a complete contradiction. If their mind is full of lies behind the eyes, they are selecting from something they know all too well and flip it. Crazy, but it's obvious. If someone is asked to pick something quick on the menu in a restaurant, they look for what they know…kinda.
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A toxic person will to continue to deny, fear guilt and shame, be unable to process accountability via joining the dots, blameshift away to damage any truth, fact, or accountability as they do when gaslighting on a one-to-one basis, lying with fantasy issues, discriminate to coverup, and create damage which exposes their internal processing as reduce to allow exposure of something the treasure (mask), but doing so exposes them and a personality disorder later.
All elements link up to deception internally and the extended external actions. Not an adult, cluster B present, fear of exposure, denial links to the past and systems to mask while assuming whatever they do is acceptable so feedback is a trigger.
What will be fuel to blame-shift is their own actions smeared onto someone else; it’s the core inspiration, a weird put it on that person while I do it mindset, which shows serious deception internally and a…. Wait for it… inspired by a lack of imagination so the link is still present, triggering the person over time… trying to trick their own mind has consequences the facade cracks. Schoolyard mentality before development.
Balanced people avoid any kind of smear stuff; it’s seen as toxic from the start, and they tend to avoid putting themselves in a situation to create one.
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Toxic people - Not getting it, ignore boundaries, keep going without self-awareness, have low emotional intelligence through choice, gossip, smear, avoid accountability, lack self-awareness, are harmful and manipulative in relations, false self-construct with triggers and no consideration beyond their emotions. It can create huge problems and then distract as if nothing happened.
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Triggers and avoidance when they should sort something.
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The mess will be other people’s influence, not their own. Reacting to feedback and reality that isn’t fitting with biased expectations… Stuck in at school, not seeing the next stage in the situation around them. The imature mind in their questionable observations.. lacking in growth, not seeing that is actually a thing.
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If you cannot see yourself, how can you see others correctly? A total lack of self-awareness.
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Unhealthy comparison is formulated with an odd perception of others, which then creates more unhealthy comparisons, a vicious circle of delusional opinions leading to questionable expectations.
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Everyone can spot a toxic person after a while, unless they are also toxic. If they gossip, know they are doing it about everyone who isn’t present. Including you.
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“Claiming others do what they are doing in a deceptive way to push away guilt.”
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The silver lining, people can learn a lot from toxic, people can do the exact opposite and end up successful. Going right when they go left.
If they say: “I don’t read, haven’t got time.” - Read a book.
If they say “I’m better off single” - Look for love in the right places.
If they say: “It’s different when I do it.” - Walk.
If they say: “Other people make me arrogant.” - Run like the wind.
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Wearing a crash helmet to protect the ego, at the same time choking reality.
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References:
Psychology Today - How to Recognize Toxic Individuals and Toxic Relationships
TalkSmart -How Emotionally Intelligent People Handle Toxic People
PsychCentral - What’s a Toxic Person and How to Deal with Them
Talkspace - 6 Traits of Highly Toxic People
Red - Toxic people: 9 signs a person is toxic
UN - Toxic Trick Played Upon Others
Medium - How to Spot Toxic People and Keep Them at Bay
WebMD - Toxic People: Signs to Look For
Oxford CBT - What are the Signs of a Toxic Person and How to Deal With Them
The discussion may require further education to document: (More a social or home, plagues the schoolyard and may stick in adult life, bad role-modelling, conditioning of how undeveloped minds think of ways to control others.)
Direct and Indirect forms of abuse, how to spot the history when matters change tactics to smear and deflect onto others, or a professional victim card appears.
Test Question - Smear, what is it and why does it happen in childhood, families, schools, places of work, going undetected? What is its design, and why is it a secondary sign of something more harmful?
It is important to realise when playing catch up to matters of concern that smear is secondary, not primary (an extension of gaslighting). Smear can occur as a tool used after the direct damage/gaslighting/various forms of emotional or physical abuse have been employed over time with mixed aggression, so the questionable behaviour continues undetected without training or education to spot the signs.
Smear - Using in-direct methods linked to control issues to extend guilt or shame onto someone with emotional abuse/pressure can be an indicator of deceptive high-functioning behaviour appearing in the secondary evidence in the abuse timeline.
True or False: The full definition is a narcissistic smear. The internal mechanism operates externally, showing a lack of empathy for others, an internally damaged feedback loop, control issues, avoiding processing and accountability, blameshifting to damage truth and facts to continue with a mask/stimulation and gaslight through others when the target/victim chose not to accept a personality disorder (unusually undiagnosed) or continue deception or self-deception.
A hurt person hurts other people to avoid a lie/action, or behaviour. Guilt and shame are put on to others as the child's mind inside the adult cannot process reality with balance or the perception of others. The carefully crafted false self-construct inside a facade built over time from childhood experiences of abuse or no accountability or both.
Fantasy, triggers and abuse behind closed doors, sometimes in public. High functioning is harder to spot.
The giveaway is simple: Using others while those ‘others’ are unable to go beyond face value, impressional or harmful as well. Exposure on numerous accounts while the ‘others’ extend and become an abusers while the core negative disruptor tries to stay clean.
Further secondary evidence linking to the coverup of primary evidence… a reaction to ‘fear of exposure’, reacting to something, not reacting to ‘nothing’.
More than one narcissistic person will expose themselves, and more than one unbiased personality disorder will expose themselves. Not every adult has an adult mind due to childhood development. A Professional victim can be present as a tool… the child is still present. They will harm their own children’s growth, and so the cycle continues.
Test question response - If marked wrong even after presenting key markers, review the Smear or Flying Monkeys web pages, then seek advice locally or call 101 or 999 or 911 (US). The confusion a person might be experiencing has a design to do just that, confuse…so the victim cannot see who is causing harm over time. The outcome is harming a person’s mental health over time.
Gaslighting has a design and has an agenda to go undetected (linked to an abusive person’s masked/damaged ‘for the narrative perception), a stimulating game to one person with mixed aggressive behaviour… very harmful to another if not safeguarded.
The unfortunate experience is linked to an undiagnosed disorder is trying to influence others at any cost with detachment and control issues (assuming they own someone else’s perception, their parent did it to them, for example, learned). Remove Truth Bias (many grow up assuming with a positive comparison).
They will go on to harm networks, another giveaway that something is unstable/damaging/without processing of the self or accountability enabled… a masked internal thinking system/equation will go on to abuse for control indirectly to equally harmful as direct abuse. In many ways, it is the extension that is learned, used and once felt so projection on to others is a way of making others feel the same hurt; what inspires can be all the lies right behind the eyes. An abuser can claim the things they do are what the victim is doing to them. A lack of imagination and what is in thought is what is used, a key giveaway to a lack of emotional intelligence and future development.
True of False: To maintain control of a lie/action or a facade, the disruptor assumes what they do is acceptable in their eyes as their eye learned what they use from a bad role model.
