Emotional Abusers

Summary - Emotional abusers do most of their dirty work behind closed doors, which can be linked to where they received it in childhood. The abuse cycle. The feedback loop.

(If it’s an emergency, go to the Domestic Abuse (subtle) page, and scroll to the numbers.)

Using subtle isolation techniques on a partner and then blame-shifting onto them and others. Lack of accountability and processing requires a trauma-bonded victim.
A mask personality for public consumption will have cracks and speak out to professionals about the methods used to maintain long-term abuse.

Psychology Today - The Risk Factors for Continuing the Cycle of Abuse

What is narcissistic injury?

What is a trauma bond?

GEE - 8 types of people who never deserve a second chance, according to psychology

Barton Family Lawyers - Your Legal Guide to Divorcing a Narcissist – Narcissistic Abuse Explained

Teenagers can find advice at Psych2go (numerous subjects to help spot something that might appear as camouflaged)

True or False: The inversion - A manipulative person exposes themselves, doubling down when others step back.

Emotional abuse is designed to be hidden, unlike physical abuse, which will expose bruises and broken bones or head injuries. The stimulation is never for just one occasion and is mostly driven by an undiagnosed personality disorder if it persists.

True or False - When boundaries are required with those who need them - sending a warning shot with truth and fact will offer a reaction that exposes how reality, accountability, and behaviour are processed or dismissed. With empathy through a simple one off mistake. Or without empathy and guilt, which is linked to Conduct Disorder… trying not to be wrong at any cost.

Passive aggressive and Controlling behaviours can be linked to affected childhood experiences or learned behaviour from the parents/caregivers. The abuser may require being spoken to by the authorises or a professional who deals with Narcissism (made), Machiavellianism (manipulative from the shadows) and Psychopathy. Many never see beyond the face value of the cause, including the disruptor.

Choosing Therapy - 10 Signs of a Female Psychopath (and men but are different)

Other considerations - Cluster B types - Borderline. When emotions get out of control at the expense of others, boundaries are required. If a person is highly manipulative, they will default to blaming their victim, gaslighting, triangulating others, using victim cards, create smear campaigns... simply because they are not getting the attention they assume they deserve. Behind the masked personality for public consumption, the mind functions differently with a different view of themselves as they compare others... a use or an object for a purpose. Never accept emotional abuse; it can lead to further abuse.

References - 

Ayo & Iken - 20 Ways to Spot the Psychopath in Your Life

VeryWellMind - Signs of Manipulative Behavior

VeryWellMind - How to Identify and Cope With Emotional Abuse

VeryWellMind - Is Someone Gaslighting You? Learn the Warning Signs

Understanding the Psychology of Interrupting

VeryWellMind - How to Know If You Are an Abusive Spouse

Legal Terms:

Fraudulent Misrepresentation - (Deception, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting) - Where a false statement is made, which the statement maker knew was false or was reckless as to whether it was true or false, and the innocent party is induced into a contract and as a result, suffers loss.

Breaches of Fiduciary Duty - This can arise in relationships of trust.

Dishonest Assistance - (Flying Monkeys, Using others) - Where a party has a dishonest state of mind and provides assistance to another in breaching a fiduciary duty.

Knowing Receipt - Where a party knowingly receives money or other assets which have been disposed of by another in breach of fiduciary duty or in breach of trust, and where it is unconscionable for them to retain that money or those assets.

Tort of Deceit - (Gaslighting, Deception) - Where a false is made, which the statement maker knew to be untrue or was reckless as to its truth, with the intention of the other party relying on it and as a result that party suffers loss.

Unlawful Means Conspiracy - (Gaslighting, Deception, Gatekeeping, Emotional Abuse) - Where there is concerted action between two or more people using unlawful means, and where they have knowledge of the unlawfulness and an intention to injure and they participate in an overt act in pursuance of the agreed action causing actual damage to the innocent party.

Inducing or Procuring Breach of Contract - Where a party (A) interferes with another party’s (B) contract with another (C), and there is then a breach of the contract between B and C, where A has knowledge of the contract between B and C, and A’s interference causes damage to B and/or C.

Quote: "The environmental causes (such as shared, and non-shared environment) that contribute to the development of Machiavellianism were childhood maltreatment and neglect, social reinforcement of manipulative behaviours from an early age, and poor family functioning." Wiki - Machiavellianism

The discussion may require further education to document: (More a social or home, plagues the schoolyard and may stick in adult life, bad role-modelling, conditioning of how undeveloped minds think of ways to control others.)

Direct and Indirect forms of abuse, how to spot the history when matters change tactics to smear and deflect onto others, or a professional victim card appears.

Test Question - Smear, what is it and why does it happen in childhood, families, schools, places of work, going undetected? What is its design, and why is it a secondary sign of something more harmful?

It is important to realise when playing catch up to matters of concern that smear is secondary, not primary (an extension of gaslighting). Smear can occur as a tool used after the direct damage/gaslighting/various forms of emotional or physical abuse have been employed over time with mixed aggression, so the questionable behaviour continues undetected without training or education to spot the signs.

Smear - Using in-direct methods linked to control issues to extend guilt or shame onto someone with emotional abuse/pressure can be an indicator of deceptive high-functioning behaviour appearing in the secondary evidence in the abuse timeline.

True or False: The full definition is a narcissistic smear. The internal mechanism operates externally, showing a lack of empathy for others, an internally damaged feedback loop, control issues, avoiding processing and accountability, blameshifting to damage truth and facts to continue with a mask/stimulation and gaslight through others when the target/victim chose not to accept a personality disorder (unusually undiagnosed) or continue deception or self-deception.

A hurt person hurts other people to avoid a lie/action, or behaviour. Guilt and shame are put on to others as the child's mind inside the adult cannot process reality with balance or the perception of others. The carefully crafted false self-construct inside a facade built over time from childhood experiences of abuse or no accountability or both.

Fantasy, triggers and abuse behind closed doors, sometimes in public. High functioning is harder to spot.

The giveaway is simple: Using others while those ‘others’ are unable to go beyond face value, impressional or harmful as well. Exposure on numerous accounts while the ‘others’ extend and become an abusers while the core negative disruptor tries to stay clean.

Further secondary evidence linking to the coverup of primary evidence… a reaction to ‘fear of exposure’, reacting to something, not reacting to ‘nothing’.

More than one narcissistic person will expose themselves, and more than one unbiased personality disorder will expose themselves. Not every adult has an adult mind due to childhood development. A Professional victim can be present as a tool… the child is still present. They will harm their own children’s growth, and so the cycle continues.

Test question response - If marked wrong even after presenting key markers, review the Smear or Flying Monkeys web pages, then seek advice locally or call 101 or 999 or 911 (US). The confusion a person might be experiencing has a design to do just that, confuse…so the victim cannot see who is causing harm over time. The outcome is harming a person’s mental health over time.

Gaslighting has a design and has an agenda to go undetected (linked to an abusive person’s masked/damaged ‘for the narrative perception), a stimulating game to one person with mixed aggressive behaviour… very harmful to another if not safeguarded.

The unfortunate experience is linked to an undiagnosed disorder is trying to influence others at any cost with detachment and control issues (assuming they own someone else’s perception, their parent did it to them, for example, learned). Remove Truth Bias (many grow up assuming with a positive comparison).

They will go on to harm networks, another giveaway that something is unstable/damaging/without processing of the self or accountability enabled… a masked internal thinking system/equation will go on to abuse for control indirectly to equally harmful as direct abuse. In many ways, it is the extension that is learned, used and once felt so projection on to others is a way of making others feel the same hurt; what inspires can be all the lies right behind the eyes. An abuser can claim the things they do are what the victim is doing to them. A lack of imagination and what is in thought is what is used, a key giveaway to a lack of emotional intelligence and future development.

True of False: To maintain control of a lie/action or a facade, the disruptor assumes what they do is acceptable in their eyes as their eye learned what they use from a bad role model.