Narcissistic Mother-in-Law or father-in-law
Summary: The amount of feedback in this agenda is off the charts… an undiagnosed disorder tries to take over another family system with a childhood experience as fuel. Testing boundaries to feel in control and gaslighting to influence.
Psychology Today - The Risk Factors for Continuing the Cycle of Abuse
Before you read, have a little insight, it may help centre matters: Masked Emotional Instability
They work on others to gain an identity in other people’s eyes, blaming their partner to make them look better, the same trick can be done to anyone. The damaged feedback loop means everyone is discussed when not in the room, toxic to the core, and charming when needed.
There have been examples where the mother-in-law calmly tries to convince the daughter or son that all men or women cheat, and their own partner cheated, so in a way, in their mind, they are the only one who is secure and to reply on. A way of keeping attention on them while deep insecurity and manipulation exist. Truama bonding.
The lack of empathy for others exposes itself, trying to create a false perception that damages the new marriages. They won’t feel the effect of their actions, get the professional’s advice and authorites to review.
True or False: A controlling person in their own marriage will want to try and extend that control as the disorder feeds the insecurity and a need for control and supply to be maintained.
True or False: Not allowing their children to grow up will appear in many areas.
The long play to blameshifting and influencing others is to hide the behaviour the ‘in-law’ what they are doing. Every action wants a reaction, and the first action has a purpose. Watch how it is done to spot the agenda, are they speaking of someone in a way that makes them a little less than the manipultor, are they doing it wrong, are they not giving the manipulator attention or share the same values?
True or False: Rather than see an adult, see missing stages in development, the child, teenager who got stuck but wont seek help.
True or False: Good family systems eventually workout the toxic behaviour and agenda, but not until damage is caused… it might take a family of behaviour specialists and strong boundaries to see it coming.
True or False: Wating control and identity amongst others is about insecurity, not confidence.
References:
VeryWellMind - Got a Narcissistic Mother-in-Law? Here's How to Maintain Your Boundaries
Choosing Therapy - Toxic Mother-in-Laws: 12 Signs & How to Deal With One
Psychopathy Is - What are Personality Disorders?
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5-TR)
