Types Of Stalker
Summary: There isn’t just one type, but there can be just one mindset linked to control issues.
A test question to review first, its design is to help a person’s perception catch up sooner to what can be camouflaged with mixed aggression. Emotional switch flicking from normal to covert or overt behaviours when triggered and why matters may continue after “no” or “no thank you” has been presented”. Cultural conditioning in childhood, with other elements, can lead to a person lacking prosocial skills and assuming something very harmful but seeing nothing wrong with it. The reference sentence has the word ‘perception’ included.
LL - Gaslighting: Examining the Warning Signs
LL - Educating Young People on Love Bombing
Fearless.org (Anonymous reporting on behalf of someone)
Psychology Today - The Risk Factors for Continuing the Cycle of Abuse
Teenagers can find advice at Psych2go (numerous subjects to help spot something that might appear as camouflaged)
Suzy Lamplugh Trust - UK - 0808 802 0300 - Email
True or False: “I love you, I miss you” - The giveaway is in the choice of words, me, me, me, offering internal processing along with conflicting behaviour and strange timing. A disorder always wants to mask and dismiss, avoid accountability at all costs to regain control, directly or through others. Love does something else.
OMB - What is Post Separation Abuse? (Not knowing when to stop, using others is further signs of abuse and disorder)
True or False: Stalkers also use others for information, triangulation, stimulation, and to let their victim know indirectly via covert ways to make their chosen target think about the stalker under the radar in a coincidentally timed manner. They assume they still own or have ownership over someone else’s perception of their own serving needs or assumed authority inside their facade, even after the emotionally abused person has walked away. The red flag for control issues. It will always be justified as inside the undiagnosed personality disorder with a damaged feedback loop, “it is different when they do it”.
Notes: Control issues are linked to insecurity, not confidence, hence the stalking. Mental abuse or assault. Narcissistic and delusional beliefs to reclaim, forcing contact by any means necessary. Factor One Psychopathy, bold in public, then a change of tactic if needed, victim card. Revenge a rejection. “Extended creepy methods” linked to covert emotional abuse under the radar are now acting out over distance. Undiagnosed. Can be Borderline with obsession, designed with a strategy to break or harm other people’s relationships. Document everything, educate your friends and children. Ignore advances, gossip, or smear, mental health safety first. Extended Fantasy Issues linking to childhood development issues and bad role modelling; prosocial issues, while can be charming, possibly hurt people hurting other people. Masking may not show the hurt at face value.
Call 999 (UK) or 911 (US) - Have everything documented.
Childline (UK)
National Crime Agency - Children
FOS - Complaints That Involve Economic And Domestic Abuse
Before you read, have a little insight, it may help centre matters: Masked Emotional Instability
Important note: Stalking is linked to someone ‘assuming they have control over someone else’s perception’ as well as supply, attention and empathy to drain/feed. There is also a link to paranoia and internal control issues developed from childhood; see the Paranoid Personality web page for insight behind the mask; the signs are not always obvious. Strange assumptions, opinions of others, talking behind everyone’s back, the child’s mind can still be present due to development stages with abuse and not love. Help is needed.
Conflicting types of visits, comments, or behaviour can become stalking if boundaries are put in place. Increase personal safety, close off social media and ignore odd calls and texts at certain times; nothing is a coincidence after a breakup, or boundaries would be respected. If they turn family/work against you, call the authorities, it is more than stalking. Undiagnosed disorders that are highly manipulative and masking can be linked to Factor One Psychopathy and Machiavellianism. “If I am hurting, so will you.” Prosocial development issues in childhood can play an important factor in deflecting and emotionally abusing, projecting hurt from not understanding another person's point of view.
“1 in 5 women, 1 in 10 men can be abused by a stalker if the domestic intimation is continued.”
Public Prosecution Service - Motivations for stalking
Control by Proxy = Flying Monkey = Induce guilt or harm from a distance.
Stay NO CONTACT on all terms.
“Gaining control over someone or a situation.”
“They think they are the victim.”
"If I am suffering, so will you."
“The stalker feels entitled to the victim’s perception of the stalker.”
“The stalker never thinks they are a stalker, feedback loop issues.”
"Has no care for rules, or social norms, will appear in public without care for boundaries with charm or cryptic emotional abuse or just to be present. Overly bold, not processing requests and considerations."
“I love you, I miss you.” (timed love bombing, in contrast to other harm from other directions)
“A stalker can appear nice and polite on face value or blameshift with strategy, a covert agenda is masked, micro-aggressions may not be spotted at first.”
“They will lash out if needs are not met, with strategy.”
“Stranger stalker can be much less dangerous.”
“The desire for control over more than one victim.”
“They will stalk other people’s families to cover intentions, not as a stalker, keeping contact intentionally.”
“Most have been abused as children. Inadiquent. Intellted to special treatment”
“A bully can be charming, only to show issues later on.”
“It’s different when I do it.”
“1.4 million people worldwide have stalker issues trying to abuse boundaries with intimidation.”
Ignored strong boundaries and questions on aggressive or emotionally abusive behaviour can lead to pressured control (doubling down) or intimation with contradiction. Meaning tactical and manipulative control issues are still present. Strangers or ex-relationships, stalking and harassment direct or third party influenced instructions to harm, all should be reviewed as one thing can lead to another if wants, needs or stimulation is not met.
The Role of Flying Monkeys in Domestic Abuse (when gaslighting is prevented, third party operative can extend the abuse)
Flying monkeys in the context of domestic abuse play various roles, all of which serve to reinforce the abuser’s control and manipulation:
Spread Disinformation: They may spread lies and rumours about the victim, often echoing the narcissist’s narrative to discredit and isolate the victim further.
Harassment and Intimidation: Flying monkeys can also engage in direct harassment, sending messages or making calls on behalf of the abuser, serving to intimidate and control the victim.
Spying and Reporting Back: In some cases, they act as the eyes and ears of the abuser, reporting back on the victim’s activities and state of mind.
Enabling Denial: Their actions can provide the abuser with plausible deniability, as the abuser can claim they are not directly responsible for the actions of others.
VeryWellMind - What the Term 'Flying Monkeys' Means When We Talk About Narcissism (siding no matter the evidence, speak to a professional)
Types of Stalker - Different intentions, all linking to not seeing or respecting boundaries, feeling entitled to remain connected to harm emotionally. If it is a person known, the emotional abuse they covered up, may extend regardless by doubling down, including others. Rejection, the victim card.
Rejected Stalker
Predatory Stalker
Sadistic Stalker
Incompetent Suitor
Resentful Stalker
Intimacy-Seeker
Political Stalker
Science Direct - Maladaptive Daydreaming and Narcissism
True or False: A person with affective and cognitive empathy will think one way with accountability, consideration and long-term choices, a person without will do something else when fear of exposure is triggered. Feedback is not an option; the lie behind the eyes is not processed in any way; it may be put on to someone else instead, guilt and shame are not in the equation, only “why me?” or “if I am hurting, so must they.”
Stalkers can appear after a person removes themselves from a coercive control relationship and be blameshifted for not remaining committed, one action of control leaders to not seeing a second intention, both chargeable offences.
Know the difference between stalking, harassment and domestic emotional abuse. They are separate charges, both can be combined, and both can lead to further detached behaviour and perception of what is right and what is wrong.
Physical presence is uninvited/without warning or appointment… if needs are not met, forms of emotional abuse can be continued in other forms of third-party influence. Chargeable offences are noted on the Domestic Abuse page.
Thirty-party stalking is important to note, is also a chargeable offence. Study Flying Monkeys who usually act on behalf of a person with control/emotional abuse/abuse/bad role model or childhood development issues. Attempting to keep their hands clean while indirectly inducing guilt/hurt/harm/emotional conditioning. Usually due to a harmed feedback loop and perception issue. Not seeing the harm they cause so, they extend it in various ways to intimate with contraction, further exposing issues/reasons why to remove yourself from masked toxic situations.
Red Flag Locations Without Appointment or Warning: Abusing Boundaries and Privacy - One-off or coincidences - Children's schools, place of work, home if excluded, personal time locations, favourite venues, friend circles to interject to have a presence to intimidate direct or in-direct, social media coincidences.
Direct or via a third party, the stalker wants something but not revealed with transparency. Wants and needs are mostly likely related to a core issue in mental growth, or lack of. Past experiences were unresolved in development years so professional skills may affected. Review Cluster or Dark Triad and Dark Tetrad.
Note: Men and women can be equal in ignoring boundaries. Intimidation is a chargeable offence.
Public places without invitation - Intending to be intrusive without an appointment, confirmation, no warning. Not only is it an offence, it opens up insight into the agenda. A lack of balance or consideration, a further extension of a masked agenda in a relationship or non-relationship. (Check locations off limits, or lead to an investigation)
High-functioning types will continue for longer without early warning signs. Low functioning may be more direct, not seeing or admitting issue through stimulation.
Be wary of any person or person’s having a hidden agenda make you upset or uncomfortable while they abuse your boundaries or instruction. Seek help from the authorities as they may claim your reaction to their presence gains a means for a covering statement to cover their tracks. That is intimation and further linked to Coercive Control issues and Factor One psychopathy, intending to harm. Check the behaviour references below for when it is more than stalking.
Knowing the different types of stalkers or stalking is key to spotting the questionable agenda. Covert types may be known more for stalking, but overt types may appear in public places without warning or appearance, and it is not a coincidence.
A glimpse for stimulation, present coercive control in a cryptic manner, masking conversation, a sense of disruption in any form including silent treatment, a gained or felt intentional emotional instability to take a person away from their priorities. Review, document, and take note - Why is this person here in this manner?
Needs to be met require stimulation = I am here in a tactical opportunity for one. Hidden agenda, practised masking, other tricks or motivates maybe used at a different time.
If someone is stalking via a third party, the third party is also accountable. If there is social media stalking, deceptive statements, or any form of abuse or aggression presented in subtext, call the authorities. Human rights, domestic and public abuse definitions can be reviewed with repeated, pattern behaviour.
Third-party stalkers can be noted as Flying Monkeys, an extension of abuse on behalf of someone attempting to gain control while keeping hands clean. They will most likely add their own abuse forms, guilt-tripping, and offer issues outside their presented facade. Call the authorities if abuse is affecting your mental health.
“Voyeurism can be linked to stalking, particularly when a person's interest in someone becomes obsessive.”
Cluster B is a group of personality disorders that are characterized by dramatic, impulsive, and erratic behaviours, as well as unpredictable emotional responses. The four main types of cluster B personality disorders are:
Antisocial personality disorder (ASPD)
A pervasive pattern of irresponsible behaviour, disregard for other's rights, and lack of empathy
Borderline personality disorder (BPD)
A pervasive pattern of instability in relationships, self-image, and mood, as well as fear of abandonment and unhealthy attachments
Histrionic personality disorder (HPD)
A pervasive pattern of attention-seeking behaviour, excessive emotionality, and an impressionistic style of speech
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)
A pervasive pattern of grandiosity, lack of empathy, and a need for admiration
Some signs of a cluster B personality disorder include:
Relationship challenges
Frequent conflicts with others
Out-of-control emotions
Trouble relating to others
Impulsivity
Problems at work or school
Putting yourself in risky situations
Excessive drug or alcohol use
Conflicts with the law
While cluster B personality disorders are not curable, there are many options to help manage symptoms, including medication, psychotherapy, and behavioural therapies.
“Although stalking is a gender-neutral crime, most (78 per cent) stalking victims are female and most (87 per cent) stalking perpetrators are male. Adults between 18 and 29 years old are the primary targets of stalking, comprising 52 per cent of all victims.”
Review links for further details and information on motive:
References 1 - Stalker Types:
The Misuse of Data and Harassment When Questioned
Public Prosecution Service - Motivations for stalking
Fighter Law - 7 Different Types of Stalkers
ABC News - The psychology behind the five types of stalker and how to best deal with them
Psychiatyonline - Study of Stalkers
Kravmagaexperts - The Five Kind Of Stalkers
JD - An Expert Look - What Do Stalkers Want From Their Victims?
SGH - Stalking – The five motivation types
Science Direct - Discussion of Stalking
References 2 - Coercive Control:
Healthline - How to Recognize Coercive Control
Womans Aid - What is coercive control?
National Domestic Abuse Helpline. (0808 2000 247)
RV - What is coercive control?
CN - what is coercive control?
Your Tango - 9 Signs You Have A Very Low-Quality Person In Your Life
References 3 - Other pages
Science Direct - Maladaptive Daydreaming and Narcissism
VeryWellMind - What the Term 'Flying Monkeys' Means When We Talk About Narcissism
NeuroScience - 80% of Developmental Disorders Linked to Known Recessive Genes
CHD - Flying Monkeys. Unravelling the Origins of a Term in the Context of Domestic Abuse
Psychology Today - 3 Tips to Protect Yourself From a Narcissist's "Flying Monkeys"
The discussion may require further education to document: (More a social or home, plagues the schoolyard and may stick in adult life, bad role-modelling, conditioning of how undeveloped minds think of ways to control others.)
Direct and Indirect forms of abuse, how to spot the history when matters change tactics to smear and deflect onto others, or a professional victim card appears.
Test Question - Smear, what is it and why does it happen in childhood, families, schools, places of work, going undetected? What is its design, and why is it a secondary sign of something more harmful?
It is important to realise when playing catch up to matters of concern that smear is secondary, not primary (an extension of gaslighting). Smear can occur as a tool used after the direct damage/gaslighting/various forms of emotional or physical abuse have been employed over time with mixed aggression, so the questionable behaviour continues undetected without training or education to spot the signs.
Smear - Using in-direct methods linked to control issues to extend guilt or shame onto someone with emotional abuse/pressure can be an indicator of deceptive high-functioning behaviour appearing in the secondary evidence in the abuse timeline.
True or False: The full definition is a narcissistic smear. The internal mechanism operates externally, showing a lack of empathy for others, an internally damaged feedback loop, control issues, avoiding processing and accountability, blameshifting to damage truth and facts to continue with a mask/stimulation and gaslight through others when the target/victim chose not to accept a personality disorder (unusually undiagnosed) or continue deception or self-deception.
A hurt person hurts other people to avoid a lie/action, or behaviour. Guilt and shame are put on to others as the child's mind inside the adult cannot process reality with balance or the perception of others. The carefully crafted false self-construct inside a facade built over time from childhood experiences of abuse or no accountability or both.
Fantasy, triggers and abuse behind closed doors, sometimes in public. High functioning is harder to spot.
The giveaway is simple: Using others while those ‘others’ are unable to go beyond face value, impressional or harmful as well. Exposure on numerous accounts while the ‘others’ extend and become an abusers while the core negative disruptor tries to stay clean.
Further secondary evidence linking to the coverup of primary evidence… a reaction to ‘fear of exposure’, reacting to something, not reacting to ‘nothing’.
More than one narcissistic person will expose themselves, and more than one unbiased personality disorder will expose themselves. Not every adult has an adult mind due to childhood development. A Professional victim can be present as a tool… the child is still present. They will harm their own children’s growth, and so the cycle continues.
Test question response - If marked wrong even after presenting key markers, review the Smear or Flying Monkeys web pages, then seek advice locally or call 101 or 999 or 911 (US). The confusion a person might be experiencing has a design to do just that, confuse…so the victim cannot see who is causing harm over time. The outcome is harming a person’s mental health over time.
Gaslighting has a design and has an agenda to go undetected (linked to an abusive person’s masked/damaged ‘for the narrative perception), a stimulating game to one person with mixed aggressive behaviour… very harmful to another if not safeguarded.
The unfortunate experience is linked to an undiagnosed disorder is trying to influence others at any cost with detachment and control issues (assuming they own someone else’s perception, their parent did it to them, for example, learned). Remove Truth Bias (many grow up assuming with a positive comparison).
They will go on to harm networks, another giveaway that something is unstable/damaging/without processing of the self or accountability enabled… a masked internal thinking system/equation will go on to abuse for control indirectly to equally harmful as direct abuse. In many ways, it is the extension that is learned, used and once felt so projection on to others is a way of making others feel the same hurt; what inspires can be all the lies right behind the eyes. An abuser can claim the things they do are what the victim is doing to them. A lack of imagination and what is in thought is what is used, a key giveaway to a lack of emotional intelligence and future development.
True or False: To maintain control of a lie/action or a facade, the disruptor assumes what they do is acceptable in their eyes as their eye learned what they use from a bad role model.
References 4:
Legislation - Malicious Communications Act 1988
What also needs to be noted is a communication sent to appear as ‘harmless’ but sent to be noted and thought of at certain times, avoiding accountably with silent treatment. A deeper psychological issue could be present, and someone knows what they are doing on purpose. If ignored and, they move to use others in any shape or form call the authorities, Victims are not the only ones to know the rules of abuse, some play ‘just inside’ and use others to gain attention to appear as less of a stalker… being indirect is still classed as a stalker wanting to suggest ‘I am here’. Creepy and on purpose and outside parameters of what is considered as balanced and considerate. At the end of the day they are still going for a masked reason.
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