Exploiting Empathy
Summary: Empaths can attract those without empathy for several reasons. They can be exploited without realising it at first.
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Before you read, have a little insight, it may help centre matters: Masked Emotional Instability
The more empathy for others, the more education is required to protect it and to establish a perception beyond face value.
Hare Psychopathy Checklist (Original) (PCL-22)
To some, empathy and attention can be an addiction, fuel, narcissistic supply, a way of gaining validation and enforcing guilt onto another person as ‘they are needed’ without boundaries.
If a person has a parent who required fixing but did nothing in the way of change, they may find comfort in having fixer-uppers due to familiarity.
If a person with an undiagnosed personality disorder finds a way to create conformity in a relationship, others will suffer by compensating or enabling until they identify the lack of balance, spot a controlling agenda and actions driven by deep, unhealthy forms of insecurity.
Exploiting other people’s empathy mostly goes under the radar, dressed up as something else for public consumption.
The more covert, the more manipulative, the long play by having enmeshment roles that offer no triggers, feedback on behaviour and will keep in line or will seen as creating an issue in someone’s facade.
The key element is education on family culture’s repeating through the generations and what the behaviour patterns of someone who lacks empathy for others… the drain without any consideration for cause and effect.
True or False: Only when a person cuts off the supply (narcissistic supply) will a biased agenda surface.
Anyone who exploits other people’s empathy will have a hard time accepting the supply cutoff. Otherwise, they would display consideration for change and other people’s mental health rather than thinking they are always the victim and behave like one for validation.
True or False: Certain behaviours always expose themselves, its a matter of time, the gut is a good indicator if something feels off.
Sign off: Learning not to attract a certain situation can lead to longevity. Learn about attachment style. Those who go in fast via love bombing may have no ability to love others, hide conflicting behaviour will surface later behind closed doors. Those who choose not to reflect or have a lack of awareness may make their problems everyone else’s.
It might be harder to get out than it is easier to get in; look at the family culture that might support something that is ignored rather than discussed.
Boundaries, if they are not respected, red flag.
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