Lies Damage Health

Summary: The truth is out… lies leave a residue on body, brain and mind health.

Also: Emotional abuse also affects other people's health if they stay the course and tolerate lies.

(If it’s an emergency, go to the Domestic Abuse (subtle) page, and scroll to the numbers.)

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Lies affect the people around the pathological lair; they also harm the person who thinks they can say and do whatever they like over a longer period of time.

Lie detection can be done in many ways, and it is important to know all the behaviour patterns, reactions, justification, compensating behaviour and the timeline. Micro-expressions and body language linked to the limbic system etc… is another conversation on another web page with links and books explaining insightful studies.

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“Image is everything, no boundaries, control issues, secret keeping, hide fraud and abuse.”

The lair harms their health as well as relationships through a lack of empathy and depressing guilt and shame or re-directing it onto others.

The more lies under the floorboards, the more triggers when fear of exposure is felt, paranoia or overreacting, blamshifting or blam shifting on to the victim all require a constant action and perception to maintain a facade… exhausting, right? Exactly.

Imagine trying to fit a triangle into a square every day? Keeping up the justification… hiding a bag of lies under the navigating self… or as the the old saying suggests, “lies behind the eyes”. Another classic is “lies will eat you alive”.

This may offer some relief to some who are aware of someone who tries to get others to ‘fit the narrative’ without accountability and wonder what else their is to know about the effects other than the obvious.

A little bit of advice, but read the situation first with all elements considered:

If someone requires a nudge after they have gone too far - “Trying to see the truth as freeing instead of damaging your public image as lying can seriously damage your health.”

Disinformation - (keep the truth out regardless, big lie, big coverup to distract, there is a processing, guilt and shame reaction happening at the core, triggers.)

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The Role of Flying Monkeys in Domestic Abuse

Flying monkeys in the context of domestic abuse play various roles, all of which serve to reinforce the abuser’s control and manipulation:

1. Spread Disinformation: They may spread lies and rumours about the victim, often echoing the narcissist’s narrative to discredit and isolate the victim further.

2. Harassment and Intimidation: Flying monkeys can also engage in direct harassment, sending messages or making calls on behalf of the abuser, serving to intimidate and control the victim.

3. Spying and Reporting Back: In some cases, they act as the eyes and ears of the abuser, reporting back on the victim’s activities and state of mind.

4. Enabling Denial: Their actions can provide the abuser with plausible deniability, as the abuser can claim they are not directly responsible for the actions of others.

and if they listen, add this:

“No one will judge you in the way you think they will; accountability is a process over time; guilt and shame are linked to reflection, not suppression.”

Accountability is meant to be taught in childhood, but some miss the self-awareness life lessons and can carry on like a six year old… maybe. There is always an excuse or a justification; step back as the truth is a very powerful remedy, its linked to longevity and authentic success and a way of removing delusions about behaviour.

Guilt is linked to internal processing; shame is linked to the assumption of how others will judge the pathological liar. Many lie about everything; the facade is built on a false self-construct so they must dismantle a system within themselves, its not your job.

We can all learn a second time from pathological liars; it’s knowing what it does to them if they keep it up. The human body, brain and mind were not designed to carry a big lie or ‘too many to mention’.

Other approaches like authenticity, truth, being genuine to others with review and reflection, and trying with self-awareness and the cause and effect consideration lead to effective processing… so the human system feels connected and respected and not used like a storage dumping ground brushing past every situation without consideration.

Dr Robert D. Hare - PCL-R assessment

Emotional-Interpersonal Features - Factor 1*

• Superficial charm

• Grandiosity

• Lying

• Manipulation

• Lack of remorse

• Shallow emotions

• Callousness

• Blame externalisation

Impulsive-Antisocial - Features - Factor 2 *

• Easily bored

• Parasitic

• Hot-tempered/aggressive

• Child behavior problems

• Lacks goals

• Impulsive

• Irresponsible

• Juvenile offending

• Release violations (e.g. parole)