Turn Off Narcissist Supply

Summary - What happens when someone stops feeding the manipulative over-inflated fragile ego?

The self-self construct… mask… reverse victim and offender… blame the victim… expose themselves… look out for smear or love bomb… so many cases show the patterned behaviour is like a child without balance and wants to guilt trip… they know they are guilty so they must damage the ones who expose them.

Expose the truth, facts and the false self by simply being authentic and saying no.

Look at coercive control and seeking unhealthy validation at the expense of others to confirm all the linked behaviour patterns.

Do your research, document everything, and even go back decades.

By presenting healthy boundaries, issues will surface, showing the disorder on the surface and injury.

Narcissistic injury is another sign.

What is narcissistic injury?

What is a trauma bond?

Quotes:

“The false self is living inside as a delusion”

BFL - Your Legal Guide to Divorcing a Narcissist – Narcissistic Abuse Explained

CH - Flying Monkeys. Unravelling the Origins of a Term in the Context of Domestic Abuse

The Role of Flying Monkeys in Domestic Abuse

Flying monkeys in the context of domestic abuse play various roles, all of which serve to reinforce the abuser’s control and manipulation:

Spread Disinformation: They may spread lies and rumours about the victim, often echoing the narcissist’s narrative to discredit and isolate the victim further.
Harassment and Intimidation: Flying monkeys can also engage in direct harassment, sending messages or making calls on behalf of the abuser, serving to intimidate and control the victim.
Spying and Reporting Back: In some cases, they act as the eyes and ears of the abuser, reporting back on the victim’s activities and state of mind.
Enabling Denial: Their actions can provide the abuser with plausible deniability, as the abuser can claim they are not directly responsible for the actions of others.

References 1:

PsychCentral - 10 Ways to Build and Preserve Better Boundaries

Choosing Therapy - Narcissistic Injury: Definition, Signs, & Examples

Psychology Today - Understanding Narcissistic Injury

Ayo & Iken – 20 Ways to Spot the Psychopath in Your Life

PsychCentral - Narcissistic Injuries: What They Are and More

PsychCentral - Do You Seek Validation from Others? Here’s How to Stop

PsychCentral - All About Histrionic Personality Disorder

18 Tips to Stop Being a People-Pleaser

References 2:

FHE - Pathological Lying Can Occur with These Mental Disorders

RJ - Surprising effects of telling lies on our mental health