The Toxic Narcissist
Summary - Another level of concern. Make sure first you are not dealing with someone who has psychopathy; the detachment will be seen with no processing on effect or the actions, the brain function, and mirror neurons are not processing other than what they want to achieve. They are born and made disorders.
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VeryWellMind - What to Do If You or a Loved One Lack Empathy
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FOS - Complaints That Involve Economic And Domestic Abuse
GEE - 8 types of people who never deserve a second chance, according to psychology
Teenagers can find advice at Psych2go (numerous subjects to help spot something that might appear as camouflaged)
Barton Family Lawyers - Your Legal Guide to Divorcing a Narcissist – Narcissistic Abuse Explained
Teenagers can find advice at Psych2go (numerous subjects to help spot something that might appear as camouflaged)
Before you read, have a little insight, it may help centre matters: Masked Emotional Instability
True or False: Remove biased toxic people. Long-term health depends on it. What is unhealthy for one will be unhealthy for two. Deception, bias, and internal processes linked to control issues harm the mind, brain and body.
A person with psychopathy can see they are different to others and use that detachment to cause issues and sit back. The saying ‘just because you can, doesn’t mean you should’ rings true. Boundaries and parameters are not even seen as a thought or subject. A narcissistic psychopathy has further hurt to fuel conflict and control in personal relationships.
Choosing Therapy - 10 Signs of a Female Psychopath
Psychology Today - Why Female Psychopaths Are a Different Breed
Dissociative Secondary Psychopath - With female behaviour, a lot of Borderline patterns are starting to be noted as female psychopathy.
If the observer of the questionable behaviour feels guilt when seeing the truth, the chances are there has been some form of conditioning at play (gaslighting) to prevent the truth from being discussed. A professional can explain how a toxic person tries to push guilt and shame on others while draining empathy, referred to as a narcissistic supply.
True or False: People who cannot see themselves cannot see others and see nothing wrong with certain kinds of behaviour. It is not processed, only the reaction to it.
Toxic is not an easy subject to process; it may not be seen at first, usually only noted after fear of exposure is triggered (narcissistic injury and covert or over rage against the questioning of behaviour), but once understood, the behaviour, statements and actions can become clear as day. Something is missing, and something is happening at the expense of others.
What is narcissistic injury?
What is a trauma bond?
True or False: The less internal deception, the less paranoia and blame-shifting. The false self-construct can’t contain everything that the undeveloped ego can’t process, guilt and shame. The damaged self-serving internal feedback loop that avoids accountability requires a narcissistic supply and unhealthy validation to prevent narcissistic injury. Gossip distracts from processing with unhealthy comparison at the core, it’s a double standard trick to avoid the agenda from being seen.
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“Image is everything, no boundaries, control issues, secret keeping, hide fraud and abuse.”
Before processing someone’s odd or damaging patterned behaviour, the Truth Bias element should be understood; people assume everyone grows, changes, and reflects on the self and their actions and statements with authenticity. Emotional influencers and abusers do not; they may have survival tools to keep the false self-construct and facade active.
Psychology Today - The Narcissist vs. the Machiavellian
True or False: When Machiavellian traits are high in the narcissistic person, it is a toxic combo.
True or False: Uneducated partners or relatives of the toxic narcissist can be seen as having health issues, drained or under some sort of spell to keep a matter focused in a certain way. Once a person leaves the gaslighting circle, their health can change. At that point, education in human development is required about what is hiding in plain sight and what is linked to the person’s childhood. What is unhealthy for one, will be unhealthy for two; the disorder is controlling without consideration of a fully functioning human mind.
True or False: The observer must know the full timeline to predict the narcissistic cycle. Words are used as tools at certain times that conflict with authenticity, consideration, and what empathy does in a number of situations. Once they see you are on to them, there will be a change in the gaslighting agenda; triangulation may develop with unusual timing.
The observer, victim, partner, sibling, or work colleague may require a new ‘see beyond-face-value’ education.
Spot the overreaction to truth and facts, it messes with the ‘fit the narrative timeline’ and ‘projected false self-construct’.
The undiagnosed disorder is creating a false self-construct with a facade to protect the lies, motives and hidden insecurities that drive control issues and questions assumptions or others when they are not present. Charm and influence to look slightly above is a red flag; missing empathy for others has a thinking process.
True or False: Hidden agendas, ego development, brain and mind development and missing empathy all require new insight into how people are born and made.
True or False: The false self-construct and facade require 24/7 input to avoid the truth and keep the ‘fit the narrative’ active.
True or False: No one should assume odd behaviour will change overnight.
True or False: Some people have traits and disorders and work on growth; check Cluster A, B & C; the toxic type refuses to acknowledge accountability and see themself above others, special or assume their toolkit is what makes them unique.
Checklist: An undiagnosed personality disorder can continue to operate while harming people’s perception of the target assumed by the manipulative, toxic narcissist. Anyone assumed to not fall in line with the facade can be double downed on; questioning the false self’s image can trigger injury (this can be used to expose), directing empathy via victim cards when fear of exposure is felt, choke the perception of the world around by keeping education out and influence active, dismiss what is classed as right or wrong, everyone else should be accountable first because…, guilt and shame are avoided at the expense of others due to mapping out everyone’s role around them (fantasy), delusional issues create numerous side-effects on the environment and can trigger paranoia which in turn creates further gaslighting and control issues to keep the pubic image effective and to hide questionable choices.
True or False: Detachment from the behaviour and the drama created from emotional internal triggers and unhealthy comparison to others, of all feedback to childhood development.
Aside from genetic pre-cursors, Certain disorders are created from a hidden hurt, which allows the bully victim role to flip, confusing others, and can even be tricked to enable when someone appears to have learned.
Blameshifting is a dirty trick linked to guilt and shame issues hidden under the surface due to a disorder or heavily biased traits. Blaming the victim who wants to expose the behaviour may show a much longer history, triggering a great issue. The person is hiding many issues outside the first problem; coercive control is a way to keep behaviour from being processed outside the facade.
True or False: Covert of overt control issues born from childhood and a parenting style they received. Denial avoidance of accountability was witnessed and learned. Projecting onto others is the affected childhood not letting go, and the refusal to see the disorder comes from the development years.
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Splitting in the personality happened, camouflaged over with a constant influence on others (I am hiding something, this is a game), conflicting behaviour and statements, defence mechanisms instead of coping mechanisms. They fear their actions will be seen on the day, so a facade is created, and a false self-construct as a real self was not made in the development years.
Many play catchup as the public false self can maintain a certain amount of balance and influence; over time, the choices surface behind closed doors. The bad modelling they received not only damaged empathy for others; people can be seen as objects to serve the hurt, over-inflated ego that requires many years of rebuilding from the core… if ever possible. A person must admit something is wrong, if they cannot see something is wrong due to the justifying feedback loop, the mask stays on.
True or False: A smear and flying monkey have three purposes.
Answer: 1. Hide something shocking; the shame is too much to bear. 2. Step back and use others to induce guilt, wanting hands clean. 3. Expose undiagnosed personality disorders and triggers from people who fear exposure but end up exposing themselves.
Once everyone is educated correctly, the environment changes… that can be seen as the greatest fear: exposure of who they really are and what they do to gain control in certain relations…. and to hide their deep insecurity or hidden choices.
Balanced people work at relationships and growth, awareness, reflection, and accountability; the toxic type is trying to cover up and shortcut, using others as they felt used in childhood. The lack of empathy is seen in the choices and actions, and it is simply in getting to that position. Empaths, high in empathy and helping others before asking questions… the truth bias subject is vital to know there could be ten different designs of humans and some will drain, drain and see it as a working system so they do not need to look in the mirror.
Development issues without accountability with bad role modelling. Not every person follows the narcissistic cycle seen in the last generation; some do, and some don’t. In fact, some who choose not to go down the emotional abuse, manipulative exchanges, and deceptive agenda will see the truth and accountability as a prioierty, make sure boundaries are in place.
Enmeshsament Dysfunctional Family System - Good parenting and educating role models are key to human development. Hidden or undiagnosed personality disorders create such systems for reasons: it's not a balanced adult calling the shots, the agenda appears later, the children do not see it at first; they just have one place of reference. Not everyone who is a parent is a good person behind the label ‘caregiver’. They are making choices that suit their needs and what they believe serves their internal system.
A simple reference to spot a toxic person is not just what they do, but how they do it, the internal is presented on the external and justified with information assumed, passed on, from a different time, not with consideration for cause and effect. The toxic narcissist is, in many ways, an island refusing to see the truth while trying to camouflage and not understanding the adult world correctly.
True or False: Truth, triggers and actions, pay attention to the deflection and blameshift. There are more deceptive actions hiding to cause fear of exposure. A lack of accountability is at play at the expense and use of others. Transaction with control issues needing to suppress any means necessary. An action to something, not a reaction to nothing. Hurt deceptive people hurt others in a very particular way... it's all been documented in the pattern of deceptive behaviour hiding in the mind and facade.
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CH - Flying Monkeys. Unravelling the Origins of a Term in the Context of Domestic Abuse
The Role of Flying Monkeys in Domestic Abuse
Flying monkeys in the context of domestic abuse play various roles, all of which serve to reinforce the abuser’s control and manipulation:
Spread Disinformation: They may spread lies and rumours about the victim, often echoing the narcissist’s narrative to discredit and isolate the victim further.
Harassment and Intimidation: Flying monkeys can also engage in direct harassment, sending messages or making calls on behalf of the abuser, serving to intimidate and control the victim.
Spying and Reporting Back: In some cases, they act as the eyes and ears of the abuser, reporting back on the victim’s activities and state of mind.
Enabling Denial: Their actions can provide the abuser with plausible deniability, as the abuser can claim they are not directly responsible for the actions of others.
References:
Charlie Health - Is Narcissism Genetic?
Psychopathy Is - What are Personality Disorders?
Different Brains - Are Narcissists Born or Made?
Choosing Therapy - 16 Signs of Narcissistic Abuse & Victim Syndrome
PsychCentral - 11 Signs You're the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse
VeryWellMind- Effects of Narcissistic Abuse
APA Psyc Net - Borderline personality disorder as a female phenotypic expression of psychopathy?
Simply Psychology - What Is Narcissistic Projection And How Do Narcissists Use It?
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5-TR)
