Boundary Questionnaire
Summary: Distruive types want to do something in a way that they think is a good system.
They even think it is a unique special formula if no one else does it. And never think twice… the feedback loop without processing the right or wrong and ignore feedback from others.
If it means people will be at a loss, hurt or affected in any way, and they do it anyway, what can that mean?
If you approach them and they are offended and try to cover up, are they self-aware?
A lack of empathy can be seen when they continue to feed off the results.
Actions either done covertly or overtly, charm, emotional pressure with the intention to remove resistance. The agenda may only appear after a situation has happened.
Solution:
When pointing out a list of actions, statements and behaviour, you can either mirror them back or offer a questionnaire with “how did you feel when you said this?” and “How did you feel when you did that?”
List all actions, statements and emotional abuse with a question will give a secondary piece of information… plus you get to list everything without directly saying, “You did this; stop it”.
Defence mechanisms instead of coping mechanisms will appear as expected, and this can be further evidence needed. Before closing down the situation, the step to ‘let them know that you know’ can be done with ‘how do you feel when you say or do those things’.
It’s another kind of psychological mirror; they hear themselves speak or avoid the inner self trying to cover up for the self, another lie.
Lies create residue; they leave a trail of evidence and can lead to paranoia, which can lead to further stress… the solution? Accountability or suffer further.
Their mental health is not your responsibility; boundaries and awareness are key; learn about others without truth bias that will trick you into assuming something false about personality traits and patterned behaviour.
A disruptor should not be in your life if, for some reason, there is a connection… absorb the website on your own time; the education will offer insight beyond the assumed perception.
Does it work? Stepping back always works; gain insight for your own benefit while you do, as words can be used by those with a bias, and actions done by those with empathy and consideration are powerful. Truth seekers always need new tools.