Fraud vs Fraudulent
"Defraud" is a verb that means to commit fraud, which is a crime that involves tricking someone for an unfair or unlawful gain. This can be for a number of elements for personal use at the expense of others.
Summary: All behaviour has a label, a reason and a history to why statements and actions are used as deceptive survival tools. (Repetition and training maybe required to spot the subtle, deceptive influences.) Growth is key from certain situations, or an influenced patterned behaviour will repeat as seen through the generations. Prefers to be indirect, use others in a number of deceptive ways. Adults and children can/will be transactional and influenced to suit the goal or hide an action. Uses emotions and opinions to keep others looking at the core issues. Accountability - What is not felt, is not understood, that is, for other people, other people’s life rules (felt core values).
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Label - Machiavellianism… Any means necessary. People are transactional at the core. Others should fit a served ‘narrative’ linked to control issues created in childhood and certain life experiences. A need to stay under the radar, stimulated by hiding and using others while wanting to feel superior by getting away with influencing other people’s perceptions.
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Can be triggered by those who cannot be influenced. Gaslighting when questioned. Lying is like breathing due to detachment, a superiority complex and fantasy issues. The child’s mind may still be present, which conflicts with other thinking patterns.
True or false: If a person is not willing to be honest, they are not able to be honest.
Legal terms: Sanders - What is civil fraud?
Fraudulent Misrepresentation - (Deception, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting) - Where a false statement is made, which the statement maker knew was false or was reckless as to whether it was true or false, and the innocent party is induced into a contract and as a result, suffers loss.
Breaches of Fiduciary Duty - This can arise in relationships of trust.
Dishonest Assistance - (Flying Monkeys, Using others) - Where a party has a dishonest state of mind and provides assistance to another in breaching a fiduciary duty.
Knowing Receipt - Where a party knowingly receives money or other assets which have been disposed of by another in breach of fiduciary duty or in breach of trust, and where it is unconscionable for them to retain that money or those assets.
Tort of Deceit - (Gaslighting, Deception) - Where a false is made, which the statement maker knew to be untrue or was reckless as to its truth, with the intention of the other party relying on it and as a result that party suffers loss.
Unlawful Means Conspiracy - (Gaslighting, Deception, Gatekeeping, Emotional Abuse) - Where there is concerted action between two or more people using unlawful means, and where they have knowledge of the unlawfulness and an intention to injure and they participate in an overt act in pursuance of the agreed action causing actual damage to the innocent party.
Inducing or Procuring Breach of Contract - Where a party (A) interferes with another party’s (B) contract with another (C), and there is then a breach of the contract between B and C, where A has knowledge of the contract between B and C, and A’s interference causes damage to B and/or C.
Quote: "The environmental causes (such as shared, and non-shared environment) that contribute to the development of Machiavellianism were childhood maltreatment and neglect, social reinforcement of manipulative behaviours from an early age, and poor family functioning." Wiki - Machiavellianism
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Using others is a key element to this trait, proactive factor one intentions, detached empathy issues. Create distractions to make others fight between them to keep the attention away from themselves. Chaos can be stimulating as it keeps the triggers away.
Nothing should be taken at face value with patterned, conflicting behaviour and statements. A hidden agenda is trying to hide ‘something’ at any cost, not trying to hide ‘nothing’. Cause for effect.
Adults and children in any type of relationship are used for personal gain. Transactional when required. If needed, employ irreversible damage to distract from core actions when ‘fear of exposure’ is felt. Can be stimulated by others being hurt. Sadism can be present, which is linked to control issues. Usually, will never speak for the core agenda. The facade is present to hide the internal mechisms that can be felt as ‘better than others’.
Bad role modelling influences the hard wiring and perception. No empathy education or no authentic validation can create a person with an agenda that cannot feel what would be helpful for a number of reasons. They do something else instead.
Intention example - Convincing others with a deceptive statement, once something is received, doing the opposite of the statement. All the while not revealing important information, attempting to cover up when ‘fear of exposure’ is triggered. The ‘fit the narrative’ mindset has an uncomfortable conflict to suppress within the intended controlling and self-serving timeline.
Not guided by certain types of empathy - hides it well. Will be subtle or heavy on charm and influence with a victim card. Blame shifting is a relied on tool in different forms, eventually, that will expose a need not to be accountable no matter the situation. Feels free to do anything to serve a need.
Always attempting to be something not related to the statements, choices and actions made. This can come from years of developing an internal system where accountability has been scrubbed out for a number of reasons. Other methods are used because prosocial skills were not developed correctly in childhood.
A constant intension. Many can spot the cycles and patterns once educated. the trait tries to avoid guilt and shame. Those common reactions may never be understood, and appear to be linked to other people’s rules and feelings through opaque glass. Heavy on charm and influence when fear of exposure is present rather than admitting fault.
What is not felt, is not understood… only the wants and needs through others. Can be confused to why certain considerations are made, the feedback loop offers only a cognitive bias. A different kind of circuit board, different thinking equation.
Masking is high, deception and using others offers an internal stimulation in ways balanced people what be confused about. “Why do it that way?” And if they knew the true intentional agenda and the hidden survival tools, relationships would change, the reason for the continued deception.
Empathy development has been affected while other examples have been present. Detached realisations about how others can be transactional if a ‘want’ and ‘need’ can be taken with influence and charm to influence self-esteem and perception.
Truth bias and self-esteem can be manipulated by a deceptive person who operates with cognitive biases. They may see people with high levels of truth bias or no education on deceptive behaviour as easy targets.
Adults and children in any type of relationship are used for personal gain at any cost with deceptive statements and actions with little or no consideration of the cause and effect. This is due to part two of the deceptive behaviour, covering up primary evidence with detachment.
Can intentionally create irreversible damage (exposes the overreaction to fear of exposure and zero empathy), blameshifting, blameshifting to the victim, and using others to induce guilt when fear of exposure is noted.
The deceptive person’s perception has a scheming nature and will influence others about other people behind closed doors to keep a public perception inaccurate of themselves and others. This relates to the ‘fit the narrative’ of a facade and what really goes on behind the false self-construct. May claim they do not like gossip on one day, then gossip on the next, all by design.
Education is key when dealing with Machiavellianism because the agenda is designed to be purposely hidden. It is not an overt trait; staying under the radar to attempt to control other people’s perceptions. Sneaky, deceptive, influence with detachment.
Be mindful of the professional victim card, either at stage one or two, of a deceptive intention. Forms of Blame-shifting are a key action to track.
True or False: Deceptive people don’t see others as people with deep relations; the connection is transactional. Attention, validation, wanting something, and a different view may be expressed when others are not present. Gossip and smears, always influeing to keep the disruptor from being known internally. May appear as normal and share to influence.
True or False: The childhood may never have had a wholesome education or pathway.
True or False: Deception tracking will take you back into a person’s childhood, where everything begins. Due to a lack of growth away from the experienced environment, genetics influence how the adult will default as the past generations behaved.
True or False: Those who speak and act in a certain way with a bias and without consideration do not see themselves as others do. The false self-construct is present, while empathy (mirror neurons) for others is not activated. Detachments from choices, and no morals at the core, will push the questionable intention to make biased choices.
Sign off - Wanting something regardless, covering up someone regardless… Both are linked to the same type of mindset. Similar actions and statements can be seen across the board in all areas of the fraudulent person’s life. “What are you on about?” Gaslighting when questioned. Lying is like breathing. Nothing should not be taken at face value. Neither should silent treatment, avoidance, bypass and flying monkeys appearing to induce guilt. Many play catch up due to the professional victim card that is used to influence along with conflicting behaviours in other situations.
Where there is smoke… there is fire. Nothing can be fully contained/hidden but the trait assumes it can. An undiagnosed personality disorder that will refuse to be accountable for fear of losing the public image that has been crafted for a long time, so the damage in the perception remains.
How? Bad role modelling, no positive input in the development years, having to try harder to gain certification, conditioning, fantasy issues, and no growth to go beyond the suggested pathway. Learning to do one thing instead of the other, genetics and enmeshment systems can affect how the world is viewed and how to survive. Without empathy for others, matters are considered with a different equation and without guidance.
The word ‘Fraud’ is used in both criminal and civil legal matters, relationships, and conversations to influence. Actions for personal gain at the expense of others while withholding information. Avoid getting caught up in someone else’s lie, you can be used as a pawn to cover up an agenda. Spot the hidden emotional influence - Simply ask them to do the actions directly that they see fit to do and not through you. Speaking on behalf of someone and never speaking to both parties with consideration is not a positive and can harm more than one person.
Deception never happens in the way people assume; that is their point of being deceptive… so you don’t spot it so easily. Those who are educationed may spot it a mile away.
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The Role of Flying Monkeys in Domestic Abuse
Flying monkeys in the context of domestic abuse play various roles, all of which serve to reinforce the abuser’s control and manipulation:
Spread Disinformation: They may spread lies and rumours about the victim, often echoing the narcissist’s narrative to discredit and isolate the victim further.
Harassment and Intimidation: Flying monkeys can also engage in direct harassment, sending messages or making calls on behalf of the abuser, serving to intimidate and control the victim.
Spying and Reporting Back: In some cases, they act as the eyes and ears of the abuser, reporting back on the victim’s activities and state of mind.
Enabling Denial: Their actions can provide the abuser with plausible deniability, as the abuser can claim they are not directly responsible for the actions of others.
True or False: Truth, triggers and actions, pay attention to the deflection and blameshift. There are more deceptive actions hiding to cause fear of exposure. A lack of accountability is at play at the expense and use of others. Transaction with control issues needing to suppress any means necessary. An action to something, not a reaction to nothing. Hurt deceptive people hurt others in a very particular way... it's all been documented in the pattern of deceptive behaviour hiding in the mind and facade.
References:
PsychCentral - All About Machiavellianism
Choosing Therapy - What Is Machiavellianism? Signs, Examples, & How to Cope
Psychology Today - Machiavellianism
NLM - Machiavellianism, Relationship Satisfaction
Researchgate - Perceptions of Close Relationship Through the Machiavellians´ Dark Glasses
