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Summary: Red Flag. Maybe the first giveaway… usually everything else is. Start with how a person processes self-awareness and reacts with some sort of justification.

Is the professional victim card trick used to deflect guilt and shame at any cost? Are you dealing with an overgrown child that thinks they are more smarter than everyone else, so they manipulate others in several ways?

Unable to accept feedback, why is this such an essential element to understand?

Unable to accept feedback is linked to many other behaviour actions such as avoidance, dramatic overreaction, passive-aggressive, bypass, emotional abuse, rage, name-calling, chipping and poking etc. The person is hiding behind something, that something appears in certain situations, not all the time. Pay attention.

All the unbalanced or disordered reactions are linked to low empathy, low self-awareness, no processing, inability to feel guilt or Shame correctly and their purpose, does not see or sense their own actions… only other people’s reactions.

Remove a bias to spot it sooner… truth bias, do not fill in the gaps with assumption.

True or False: There can be an ongoing persona projected to keep others from offering feedback; a hidden or undiagnosed personality disorder doesn’t allow or want accountability as the hidden choices would be revealed.

True or False: Is there an unbalanced child or teenager hiding in the adult’s body? The visual image of an adult is false.

Look at everything as well as their self-awareness. For example, how they try to manipulate people’s empathy, self-esteem, and perception. there is an agenda; knowing why, and knowing the core issue (childhood development) will offer closure beyond the damage a personality disorder will cause when undiagnosed.

True or False: Is there a ‘fit the narrative’ in their mind, and gaslighting on the external for others to assume as a reality.

True or False: Over-inflated ego, fragile ego, no feedback, all link to trying to get others to go along with a false self-construct, facade… it follows them along with their hidden self-serving questionable choices.

True or False: People are always trying to hide ‘something’, not hide ‘nothing’.

True or False: When it comes to narcissism, the undeveloped self is due to childhood, genetic precursor, born temperament and the parent style received.

True or False: What might appear to hide in plain sight with charm, lies, or professional victim card is linked to what a 30-year-old child may do.

True or False: What is unhealthy for one is going to be unhealthy for two… or more; view other people’s health when near and not near the narcissistic person for a period of time. Uneducated, balanced people can suffer until they are educated.

True or False: Fantasy issues are at play when assuming any kind of behaviour is acceptable; the child’s mind only knows 50% of what is actually going on (simplified).

True or False: Friendships and marriages might damage a person if they ‘went along’ with someone else’s false self-constructive behaviour. Humans like balance, consideration and accountability, not hidden conformity with a passive-aggressive agenda or aggressive detached assumptions to serve one.

There is a list on the web, as well as books, links, and videos suggesting statements that offer insight into hidden, unbalanced processing inside someone’s actions. Some slip up and speak without the ‘fit the narrative’ and ‘projection of the public self’. The list is too large to mention in this essay.

“I keep my own council.”

“Other people make me arrogant.”

“I can wish it real.”

“It’s the world that doesn’t get it.”

Those who can be educated will, those who refuse and say “there is nothing wrong” when clearly to everyone there is… study narcissism and how it develops into full-blown NPD; the childhood might be very present in an unhealthy way… not innocence and creativity, its projection, what was witnessed and ‘not’ learned is now hardwired into the perception which never allowed self-awareness and accountability.

For people with empathy and a flexible mindset, learn more about how some people never develop an adult perception due to the first 18 years.

If you are the one making waves without any understanding of cause and effect on others…

Personality disorders develop in childhood; if the childhood sticks or stays in some way through adulthood, then a development issue is present. Bottlenecking a number of elements… self-awareness being one. This is the catch-22. A person needs self-awareness to understand self-awareness, which is why 18 years is required to develop it… or more… or less.

True or False: Good parenting is key, and narcissistic people make narcissistic people because of what is missing.

It’s probably very hard to see or understand how adulthood never happened… it happens more often than many would think.

Accepting good feedback is step one, back to basics to help a rewire, allowing information in with an accepting fashion is key to allowing new processing. The mind, ego, brain, awareness, and accountability all develop… slowly but…

True or False: Everything is connected in human behaviour; nothing is hiding in plain sight. Education beyond only knowing 1% is key. Fanasty and the Dunning-Kruger effect can delude a person into assuming with detachment in many areas as well as with new subjects.

Sign off: There has never been a better time to know human behaviour. What is ignored can be deeply harmful. those who mask, have double standards, bully-victim cycle, gaslight, offer a professional victim card to cover tracks, use passive-aggressive comments, and even claim ‘I’m joking’ regularly (humour can be a mask for unhealthy compassion; the person wants to hide the bitterness), appear of have two personalities, no accountability, faux apology, empathy issues, strange actions and statement in times when empathy is usually activated…

Consider you are not dealing with balance, there is a very different equation happening on the internal; it might be someone undiagnosed masking and diverting from a core issue. Repeated patterned behaviour will be present over time. Having trouble with accepting feedback and showing clear changes in behaviours is more about how they see the world rather than you. They see it with a hidden me, me, me rather than you, me and the situation; it’s quick, you spot in the micro-expression… then look at everything else over time.