Setting Boundaries

Summary 1: Setting boundaries with people who have NPD or BPD is honourable, it comes with a set of choices and a higher education on matters beyond face value.

(If it’s an emergency, go to the Domestic Abuse (subtle) page, and scroll to the numbers.)

Teenagers can find advice at Psych2go (numerous subjects to help spot something that might appear as camouflaged)

Before you read, have a little insight, it may help centre matters: Masked Emotional Instability

True or False: Those who have ‘empathy for others’ and respect boundaries behave one way in a numbers situations. Those who lack self-awareness and possess low emotional intelligence will behave another way.

VeryWellMind - What to Do If You or a Loved One Lack Empathy

VeryWellMind - Why Do People Blame the Victim?

Psychology Today - The Risk Factors for Continuing the Cycle of Abuse

GEE - 8 types of people who never deserve a second chance, according to psychology

True or False: It’s what people do and how they do it that exposes the false self-construct.

What is narcissistic injury?

What is a trauma bond?

True or False: Setting boundaries with manipulative types will take it personally because they do not see or understand boundaries.

True or False: To prove a person is manipulative, others can trigger narcissistic injury or fear of exposure via stepping back or using truth.

Personality disorders and high bias traits do eventually expose themselves, at first, they may be camouflaged or enabled.

Barton Family Lawyers - Your Legal Guide to Divorcing a Narcissist – Narcissistic Abuse Explained

Settings boundaries against parents and siblings may be a lot harder than a work college for obvious reasons.

The workspace can have options such as job change. Parents may not want to allow a truth conversation about themselves or siblings as it reflects back on them. The bypass is a red flag.

Friendships and love interests can have distance and change over time. It is key to know the subject of boundaries to protect the mental health of more than one person.

True or False: Education is an important element that some will accept while others won’t.

All choices related to boundaries are going to be tough at first, making the right choices for the long term is the best option.

Consider Quiet BPD, BPD, NPD and, in some cases, psychopathy due to genetics running through the generations, fantasy issues, lack of empathy for others, no accountability, and confusion about their behaviour being questioned.

True or False: Manipulative people can have traits and hidden disorders and can the extra mile to gaslight. No one needs a long term relationship with someone who see others as objects.

Supply and injury are linked to false self-constructs, hidden insecurities and assumptions about the world around the ego. Development in the early stages has been affected in some way.

Speaking to a professional can sign a list of behaviours linking to a label. Try to label the behaviour rather than the person.

Avoid accepting any kind of gaslighting, smear, gossiping, emotional abuse or any type of abuse; know their history and childhood for a marking to development.

True or False: Coercive control comes from hidden deep insecurity and an affected childhood without personal growth. Coercive control is made not to be so obvious, as fear of exposure is a major factor.

True or False: What is unhealthy for one will be unhealthy for two.

References:

Psychology Today - Setting Boundaries With Parents With Personality Disorders

CT – Narcissistic Injury: Definition, Signs, & Examples

HP - People who are polite on the surface but passive-aggressive

Choosing Therapy - 16 Signs of Narcissistic Abuse & Victim Syndrome

PsychCentral - 11 Signs You're the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse

VeryWellMind- Effects of Narcissistic Abuse

PsychCentral – Recognizing the Signs of Coercive Control

VT – Borderline Woman as Dissociative Secondary Psychopath

CBH - How to say no to someone with borderline personality disorder

Psychopathy Is – Psychopathy Signs

VeryWellMind – Signs of Manipulative Behavior

If Someone Displays These 7 Behaviors, They Lack Emotional Intelligence

Psychology Today – How to Handle a Manipulator When They Don’t Get Their Way

Psychopathy Is – Psychopathy Signs (age groups)

Psychology Today 52 Ways to Identify a Covert Narcissist

Psychology Today – Why Female Psychopaths Are a Different Breed

Psychology Today – Low self-awareness – 3 Ways a Narcissist Damages Their Closest Relationships

Psychiatry – Neurodevelopmental Basis of Early Childhood Disruptive Behavior

VeryWellMind – How to Spot a Narcissistic Sociopath

Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5-TR)

MPC - Saying No to Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

VP - How to Set Boundaries and Say No to Someone with BPD

HG - Helping Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

Direct and Indirect forms of abuse, how to spot the history when matters change tactics.

Test Question - Smear, what is it and why does it happen in childhood, families, schools, places of work, going undetected? What is its design, why does it happen, and why is it a secondary sign of something more harmful? It is important to realise when playing catch up to matters of concern. Smear can occur as a tool used after the direct damage/gaslighting/various forms of emotional or physical abuse have been employed over time with mixed aggression, so the question behaviour continues undetected with training or education to spot the signs. Using in-direct methods linked to control issues to extend guilt or shame onto someone with emotional abuse/pressure can be an indicator of deceptive high-functioning behaviour appearing in the secondary evidence in the abuse timeline.

True or False: The full definition is a narcissistic smear. The internal mechanism operates externally, showing a lack of empathy for others, an internally damaged feedback loop, control issues, avoiding processing and accountability, blame shifts to damage truth and facts to continue to mask and gaslight through others when the target/victim chose not to accept a personality disorder (unusually undiagnosed) or continue deception or self-deception. A hurt person hurts other people to avoid a lie/action, or behaviour. Guilt and shame are put on to others as the child in the adult cannot process reality with balance or the perception of others, which is different to the carefully crafted false self-construct inside a facade built over time from childhood experiences of abuse or no accountability or both. Fantasy and abuse behind closed doors, sometimes in public. The giveaway is simple: Using others and others unable to go beyond face value. Exposure on numerous accounts, all included, extends and becomes an abuser while the core negative disruptor tries to stay clean, further secondary evidence linking to the coverup primary evidence. More than one narcissistic person will expose themselves, and more than one unbiased personality disorder will expose themselves. Not every adult has an adult mind due to childhood development. A Professional victim can be present as a tool.

Test question response - If marked wrong even after presenting key markers, review the Smear or Flying Monkeys web pages, then seek advice locally or call 101 or 999 or 911 (US). The confusion you might be experiencing has a design not to see who is causing harm over time to your mental health over time. Gaslighting has a design and has an agenda to go undetected, a game to one person with mixed behaviour, very harmful to another. The unfortunate experience is linked to an undiagnosed disorder is trying to influence others to ‘fit a narrative’ with detachment and control issues (assuming they own someone else’s perception at any cost), which can harm an uneducated person with Truth Bias (we grow up assuming with a positive comparison) for years while they repair from someone’s agenda, if the emotional abuser is persistent. They will go on to harm networks, another giveaway that something is damaging in a masked internal thinking system/equation. Indirect emotional abuse is equally as harmful as direct abuse; in many ways, it is the extension of the direct abuse to really cause damage with detachment and maintain control of a lie/action or a facade the disruptor assumes is acceptable in their eyes. Their perception may have been formed a long time ago from bad role modelling.