Love Bombing

Summary: Using tactics to cover up an agenda, words, an emotional weapon.

Teenagers can find advice at Psych2go (numerous subjects to help spot something that might appear as camouflaged)

Psychology Today - The Risk Factors for Continuing the Cycle of Abuse

True or False: “I love you, I miss you” - The giveaway is in the choice of words, me, me, me, offering internal processing along with conflicting behaviour and strange timing. A disorder always wants to mask and dismiss, avoid accountability at all costs to regain control, directly or through others. Love does something else.

(If it’s an emergency, go to the Domestic Abuse (subtle) page, and scroll to the numbers.)

Quote - “Only way to win is not play”. Not that two people are going to Lovebomb to hide emotional manipulation or emotional abuse towards each other. Step back, and educate fast. Those who are deceptive in one way, may use a number of known tricks linked to Cluster B.

True or False: Masking for years externally, while internally, has less development or awareness; it can lead to coverup and distraction tactics; blameshifting could be next. Basically, what is happening on the inside, avoiding processing, avoiding accountability, it spills over in a desperate way.

True or False: The lovebomb trick is used by deceptive types without empathy for others, those who only can love or feel for themselves, use words incorrectly in a deceptive manner, linking to all others tricks for attention, distraction or coverup.

Example: “I love you, I miss you” Send it on your special day or a relaxing holiday, do with timing. The bias is obvious. What is missing from the example is every normal consideration we all make when communicating - You, me and the situation and with respect for all actions and behavioural patterns. Memory issues on purpose to bypass accountability.

If love is misguided in childhood, no growth, bad parenting style, bad role modelling, had to try extra hard to seek unhealthy validation… it can affect a person’s perception of what love is in adulthood. Education is key to positive and negative development chapters. Genetics, family tree, enmeshment systems can all contribute to masking no empathy for others, using the word love like a tool.

Anyone caught love bombing at odd times, even when authenticity would be present, start looking into Gaslighting and undiagnosed personality disorders linked to Cluster B. Charm, convincing others of fanasty issues, its all linked.

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CH - Flying Monkeys. Unravelling the Origins of a Term in the Context of Domestic Abuse

The Role of Flying Monkeys in Domestic Abuse

Flying monkeys in the context of domestic abuse play various roles, all of which serve to reinforce the abuser’s control and manipulation:

1. Spread Disinformation: They may spread lies and rumours about the victim, often echoing the narcissist’s narrative to discredit and isolate the victim further.

2. Harassment and Intimidation: Flying monkeys can also engage in direct harassment, sending messages or making calls on behalf of the abuser, serving to intimidate and control the victim.

3. Spying and Reporting Back: In some cases, they act as the eyes and ears of the abuser, reporting back on the victim’s activities and state of mind.

4. Enabling Denial: Their actions can provide the abuser with plausible deniability, as the abuser can claim they are not directly responsible for the actions of others.