How Manipulators are made
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How Manipulators Are Made
Part 1 - Intro (Watch all films in order before reading how they are made (with links) - end on part 7.)
Film—‘31 Tactics’ should be your first film to take notes from if you want to know ‘how a type of person’ can be made. After watching - nothing will be hiding in plain sight; the who, what, why, when, and how are revealed; the obvious box to tick is childhood environment without personal growth, as not everyone repeats the cycle. Every other film is a bite-size snippet of recycled behaviour. For some, the behaviour is learned and denied at the same time. Once the act is repeated, it is denied again. Stemming the hidden trauma.
This is a drafted essay on the chosen subject for two reasons: Story Drama research and Psychology education on human behaviour with undiagnosed personality disorders hiding in plain sight from childhood experiences. The main subjects are how they are made, what their behaviour is and what is the extension of the behaviour if an exposure happens. An abuser wants to continue and is stimulated by stemming, or they would stop, according to the data its a control issue from childhood. Actors found abusing younger actors may later claim their parents did it to them first, the influence and education is ingrained into the core while remaining high functioning as long as no one speaks up.
True or False: Hurt people hurt other people if they have an undiagnosed personality disorder.
Question: What does fear of exposure look like?
Question: Do ripples in the water expose what is hiding under the surface?
Question: Why would a person triangulate and hire an army to attack a victim who is exposing their behaviour?
Question: Is there a relationship between gaslighting covertly, triangulating overtly and no validation in childhood from parents?
Question: Why do people become flying monkeys without a second thought?
Question: What happens to the abuser when the flying monkeys fail?
Question: Who is trying to keep their hands clean while employing a textbook tactic?
Question: Why Does a personality disorder perceive some people as useful or a target?
Question: Does the covert or overt abuse cycle repeat through the generations due to conditioning and exposure to an environment or simply genetics?
Question: Are flying monkeys an action due to carrying an unprocessed trauma and an extension of the inner self pushing out the truth and accountability?
Question: What are the compensating traits of a covert or overt abuser?
Question: What are the traits and background of a henchman, minion or flying monkey?
Question: What cycle happens when No Contact is implemented?
True or False: High-functioning covert abuse appears in humour and passing comments due to always comparing in an unhealthy manner and feeling less of something as the past never leaves their mind.
Darren covers the subject within Psychology (human behaviour with a personality disorder) to help others understand how the behaviour looks. When studying advanced psychology counselling, there was a focus on the solution, and the' cause and effect’ research offered how matters evolve. Darren's channel was one of many places for insight. Clarity is key, and his films offer information many should study.
“See human behaviour study as the same as learning a second language, same as reading body language.”
50% Psychology education (Human behaviour from affected environments) and 50% Story Drama research for developing and observing manipulative characters and how they are made. The data is the same across the board; it either started in childhood via survival techniques and a slanted perception of the world formulated or in the womb with a relationship to hormones and deregulation and less activity in the Pre-Frontal Cortex.
“The choice to share education is a positive one. Many websites, films, and books all say the same thing: join the dots back to childhood.” People get ill if they live with them for long enough; when they become ill, the detachments continue. The mindset and choices never change for long.
Professionals, those in relations and victims all have the same view… unless they enable or compensate.
The 31 Tactics film opens the door to the mechanics and circumstances of how some people are made in childhood and how their minds will work differently due to their experiences. The first 40 minutes cover how the manipulative cycle can be passed on through each generation due to a lack of understanding of what makes a balanced person and how parents who have no empathy for others will create the same outcome as they had.
It’s the Me, Me, Me instead of the You, Me, and the Situation due to the same genetics and environment creating the same formula, which invalidates child and damages their perception of the world and how to survive in it. Plus, the abuse can hurt the mind physically and mentally. Not everyone becomes manipulative; the films in part 2 and Insight in part 3 will offer a deep insight.
First, Tim Fletcher’s film shows what cause-and-effect will have on a person when they grow up and what it will appear like in adult life. More dangerous manipulation goes under the radar as it is much harder to spot; the person can be self-aware of masking but be unaware they are narcissistic from childhood experiences (overt reaction) and live undiagnosed.
Seven Signs of Manipulative Behavior
Guilt-tripping - The victim card - The silent treatment - One-upping - Kissing-up - Pushing buttons
Psychology Today - 4 Core Tactics of Psychological Manipulators
Taking advantage of intimate relationships - Projecting Blame - Violating boundaries - Gaslighting
INC - 10 Techniques Used by Manipulators (and How to Fight Them)
Gaslighting - Projection - Generalisations - Moving the goalposts - Changing the subject - Name-calling - Smear campaigns - Devaluation - Aggressive Jokes - Triangulation
Wikipedia - Manipulation (Psychology)
30 Characteristics of Manipulators
My course study stated that finding three examples is important so as not to show bias, on the main page you will see many films and references for Story Drama and navigation if required. On a personal note, review the subject carefully—the who, what, why, when, and how—and then focus on the solution. One professional piece of advice is strong boundaries as monitors don't reconsiders boundaries and will persist with the perception and personality well beyond a person with emotional regulation.
“When exposed, a manipulator will blame shift and claim the victim, then attack the victim in a specific way because the truth must be contained, so others are used. Triangulation. Years of hiding will give a certain response due to the fact that the public image must not be changed out of their control. Their motives will go into overdrive and they will not see their actions are, in fact, without empathy; this is how they expose themselves twice. The love bomb will follow later, another form of abuse.”
How Manipulators Are Made
Part 2 - Films
Deception through Victimhood, Confession, Diagnosis, Undiagnosed, Gender, Lie Detection to Expose Micro Expressions, Gaslighting to Coverup, Professional Victim Card, Smear (deregulated reaction and to coverup), missing empathy, and brain structure. The different between ‘traits’ and NPD or ASPD.
Gaslighting is a form of abuse and an attempt to manipulate to hide a covert agenda - Questionaire
Medical News Today - Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse
Using past trauma to justify manipulation will use people to hide covert or overt abuse, emotional deregulation, credit cards, overdrafts, and loans to be paid off while maintaining a public image. And will blame shifting to hide the emotional manipulation and damaging moves. All are learned in childhood as a means to survive.
How manipulators are made
Part 3 - Insight and References
Approach this insight with an open mind as it is fully documented but not common knowledge unless you have studied psychology, the ‘hiding in plain sight’ situation. Try to see a person made up as a sum of parts rather than an ‘adult’ with an age number. The child, teenager and adult development stages are always present in the approach, agenda, choices and presentation depending on circumstances, and an adult is only an adult if they achieves adult perception and maintains a healthy, balanced level of consideration and accountability without being manipulative and consider connecting through empathy. Babes cry for food in a world they don’t understand. Children ask for attention when hungry and want something they can’t gain on their own; teenagers can assume the world evolves around their emotional state when they feel deregulated. Many undeveloped elements are all part of creating an adult; this issue arises when a person becomes stuck and masks to survive, and the inner self appears when the world can’t connect with the wants and needs of the inner child.
“It's important that some people find personal growth after a tough or affected childhood and learn to identify the world differently from their first 18 years within a biased culture. When leaving a POW camp, the POW camp must be removed from the person”.
“Normalised manipulation can make it harder to spot it.”
If a person grows up in a family where an adult has CPTSD (the bias is on them while they do nothing to fix the underlying issue) - the children can have a slanted view of the world, and what is not balanced may be assumed as balanced. They may repeat the same in their own marriages.
An adult who chips and pokes others will have experienced the same behaviour in childhood; if it is covert, it will have happened at home when no one is looking; if it is overt, then they will have been berated in front of others. What goes inside the mind in environments with no positive guidance will stay unprocessed and then projected onto others, so the cycle continues; the mind is made up of those experiences, so it falls back on its deeper systems and habits seen and learned.
“Those who feel love will be able to experience love and be guided by love”, while some will do something else because it's what they were taught by their childhood experiences, and it all gets baked in… unfortunately.
People’s agenda, character and navigation systems are made with “This is me, take it or leave it” if there is a self-esteem issue to address and narcissism hasn’t left their processing. The highest point of narcissism in a child is between ages seven to nine when self-awareness peaks. “This is me, I understand you, let’s work this out” shows consideration and emotional intelligence rather than a lack of maturity. Those with emotional intelligence, boundaries, empathy, accountability and insight will have ticked off a list of life lessons; a red flag is noting someone does not understand common sense or repeated question behaviour and choices. They may mask it from others, so they have masked it from themselves.
going deeper into Story Drama and the Psychology of Human behaviour, people can learn how the Joker and the James Bond bad guys were made. What is not seen at first is the detachment from avoidance, hidden depression, misguided morals, abused childhood and the issues that won’t leave the disruptor. They ignore a duty, and put it on to others, its called ‘projection’ and it comes from their childhood.
PsychCentral - The Verbal Vomit of the Psychological Abuser
The second video discusses examples of traits rather than the full NPD diagnoses. There is a scale; people can have some traits and then be high in something. The majority fluctuates within parameters. If someone does not see other people’s boundaries and gets offered that a boundary is in place, it is a sign of a personality disorder not seeing they can’t treat others as objects or servants, assume everything thinks the same, but they are a bit better, a lot better and get angry if their lack of morals is a challenge with feedback. Seeing everything as criticism shows a certain level of custom was felt in childhood while no positive feedback was given. The other end is not being told ‘no’ and yes correctly, so a person can lose sight of right or wrong and become Amoral.
The same behaviour can be seen in both males and females; males might be more overt but can be covert and vulnerable, and females tend to be more covert but can switch to overt, depending on their childhood and genetic precursors. An open mind needs to be kept with genetics as it is more about how a person reacts to a situation, they may bounce back while some never recover and carry the hurt and inflict it with a trigger.
Many people may not see any of these behaviours as unusual at first if they were normalised to something or if their truth bias is being influenced by a manipulative person who felt they had to manipulate in childhood to be recognised. Unfortunately, one pathway leads to being good at one thing over another, and manipulator might think it's a grandiose advantage over others as most don’t want to manipulate; it's not an opportunity. Any short-term thinking action that will have a coverup at a later date, a cycle of corner cutting and denying to remain parasitic.
Very Well Mind - Signs of Manipulation in Relationships (What is learned is used)
Very Well Mind - What Is Triangulation in Psychology? (An abused child chose to use others to keep their hands clean and hurt like they were hurt)
Very Well Mind - Manipulative Tactics (Trying to pull people back into the facade that keeps the manipulator hidden, schoolyard tactics)
Very Well Mind - The Role of Genetics in Narcissistic Personality Disorder (Family cultures, there is never just one)
Very Well Mind - Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissism (Two types of disorder)
Very Well Mind - Understanding the Effects of Childhood Trauma (A long-lasting deeper depression that requires a review)
Very Well Mind - What Is the Narcissistic Abuse Cycle? (High levels of cognitive bias being justified and normalised as they had it done to them)
Knowing why a personality develops and covertly thinks with incongruence, detachment, passive-aggressive behaviour, manipulative tactics, and fantasy issues can have a huge effect on choices regarding relationships, marriages, workplace cultures, and helping children grow into adults. Walking blindly into something can be for several reasons. If the same choices are made, then the education that makes a person continue to fall into the same hole will require a new education (universal) to avoid relationship attachment issues with those who have undiagnosed disorders.
PsyCentral - Here Is How to Identify Your Attachment Style
Very Well Mind - 4 Types of Attachment Styles
HelpGuide - Attachment Styles and How They Affect Adult Relationships
The very unfortunate part of a manipulator's mindset is they first damage their own pathway (assuming they are gaining an advantage), then they will damage other people's situation in the blink of an eyelid. Usually, they have a higher blink rate than normal when activation happens… or nothing if they have psychopathic traits. Seeing other people have chaos around them actually offers them relief from their own internal hidden pain from childhood: “They made me do it” or “Other people make me arrogant”.
The blame-shifting perception to avoid guilt and shame. Do some research; why do manipulators manipulate others? Is it linked to issues in childhood, mirror neurons not firing in the pre-frontal cortex, or both?
Very Well Mind - Signs of Manipulative Behavior
WebMd - Manipulation: Symptoms to Look For
Love bombing is generated as a tactic in childhood due to a detached relationship with love and affection and an unbalanced relationship with parents.
Situation 1: It can be seen as a tactic by adults, directly done at specific times on purpose on special days or done through others to guilt trip and always followed by silent treatment for 95% of the year. (After a relationship has ended)
Situation 2: Going overboard, in the beginning, to lock someone into a situation and create a strong impression to hide the issues that will come later. 200% of everything without any patience, structure, or consideration, matters are pushed forward with charm. Falling in love is one thing; creating a love fog is something else.
If love is not processed correctly in childhood, seeing it as a two-way road in adulthood will be a struggle. How one person feels in peaks and troffs daily and how much attention they think they deserve is only seen after the relationship is tied up by someone who has a masked personality, and the issues will usually stay hidden at home behind closed doors. That's why it wasn’t seen in the first place for many; people assume everyone thinks the same way about relationships and the parasitive person will mask and deny it.
When the story ends in a book or film, we review the journey through the protagonist, and life has a little more insight. That is not the case if you are dealing with a person who chooses not to get diagnosed with a disorder while high functioning. Low functioning means a situation is spotted sooner. The high-functioning person can project the opposite of what is happening in reality and do it covertly or overtly (malignant type) - Many will assume their victims are the disruptors (blame shift), the world is at fault (apply no genuine actions), their behaviour is justified (it happened to them), people can assume they are genuine victims while faking health issues (Munchausen Syndrome), and the list goes on.
Cleveland Clinic - Munchausen Syndrome
If a person's undiagnosed personality disorder is part of other people’s situation without concern for cause and effect, set boundaries and be educated. Personality disorders regulate themselves with emotional deregulation, such as rage (passive or overt) when others don’t go along with something and seek validation without seeing the drain; at the end of the day, someone is running from the truth, and if they keep running in the wrong direction the issue will manifest into something bigger, then other people without realising will be enabling and compensating and flying monkeys will justify a kind of manipulation to keep the facade going unit the cracks appear.
Rock bottom was ignored long ago; the facade is stage two, another form of defence towards accountability, admitting fault and hiding the hurt as being the agenda. Also, it is important to note that nothing is seen 100% of the time; that is the confusing part (only very good for Story Drama, not for relationships), so join the dots, do the research, and understand how some people don’t empathise with others and that it is a part of life. The unfortunate truth many don’t see at first is the very dodgy manipulator hiding in plainsight had a questionable childhood an learning to copy what they saw and assumed that is how everyone else operates. They also cant connect with empathy so they can feel other peoples emotions only their own so their option of other is slanted by there own expresnes and nothing about what others can feel.
Odd comments and flawed logic, sexism, racism, face value without consideration can be some of the tell tale signs to go with an odd humour, passive aggressive behaoiver or rage, but once you see the emotional delegation or odd messages sent, its the mask that hides someone they don’t want everyone to see. They may thin everyone is hiding something and enjoy having better secerts and gossip because being indirect came from not being validated in childhood so the exntent only what they know and nothing else… the final red flag.
Psych2Go makes films for adults and teenagers. School Life might expose children to many kinds of behaviour, and the best option is to educate people much sooner about a lack of empathy or balance at home that will then appear on the playground. When adults see the same behaviour, laws now protect them from covert tactics to gaslight and convince others that any kind of behaviour is acceptable.
PsychCentral - All About Machiavellianism (Manipulative traits from the Dark Triad)
How manipulators are made
Part 4 - Story Drama
Final words for the final chapter - How does this research help with Story Drama? There are three levels of observation and different forms: Looking, Seeing and Paying Attention… the actions, statements and behaviours of some are right there on the page, in the TV soap opera and on the silver screen in a condensed version to explain in 90 mins. Many elements are hiding in plain sight, the writer job is to The drama and intention are mixed in with an algorithm, action, drama, cause and effect, and the protagonist vs. the antagonist, with obstacles to overcome and purpose. Someone is always doing something, so it's important not to see undiagnosed personality disorder or manipulation as a form of entertainment via a detached lens of playing it down and not knowing the difference between right or wrong… that would make a very boring story if there were no conclusion.
Psychology Today - How a Narcissist Destroys a Person From the Inside Out (the trauma of the past is used on other without education)
Catch the lie
Part 5 - Spot the victim - Join the dots, confirm the childhood environment, and look for micro-expressions and faults in the statements. A History of choices will have a bias, a pattern and conflicting behaviour for the public and behind closed doors.
Deception has a conflict—the truth and the limbic system give away signs of an agenda to avoid accountability. Ripples in the water after a baseline will expose key signals.
“Baked in or hardwired” “Seeking validation or attention either covert or overt” “They don’t take criticism very well, and devalue others” “Acting different to those around them”
Pauk Ekman - Micro Expressions
A technique called The Psychology Mirror can expose the manipulative or abusive agenda, which is not to be done unless trained to spot the reactions and what they mean. Have a professional onboard to guide what will become very obvious. A lack of empathy operates differently after the mask is lifted. Narcissists mirror people to appear more friendly on the outside; if they get abusive and ignore boundaries—flick the switch and show them everything they do at once—their fragile egos cannot process themselves the same way as a self-regulating human does. “The inner self cannot understand how they are seen so clearly when they choose not to see themselves.”
Evidence with ripples in the water affects the facade and makes the disruptors think about their own behaviour. Certain types of personality disorders do not like self-reflection and will try to cover up instead of taking the long road of accountability. Be careful; they smear to cover up… which is another red flag that has been cloaked. In story drama, this is seen in political dramas and in the news.
Flying Monkeys
Flying Monkeys are the agents of an abusive or manipulative person who wants to cover up a hidden agenda, abuse, trauma, rage, manipulation, fraud, and cheating, and it will only show the emotional intelligence of the hired henchman who can be easily manipulated via face value. Traits will be present, and the herd mentality will be used via a lack of empathy for others. Narcissistic collage from past trauma along the grandiose view creates a view that all feedback is a crime and that any action should not be reviewed. Covert Abusers justify what is not seen in public as acceptable, as it was done to them at some point. The intention to try and Invalidate The Victim who speaks out, triangulation and the professional victim card is driven by hurt and trauma. The Flying Monkeys get their hand dirty while the manipulator sits back and watches other people's relationships break, which gives stimulation and validation. Once their flying monkeys have no use or do not work, the love bombing can start to avoid all accountability … a form of gaslighting. Anyone who lacks empathy for others will act one way, those with will act another.
Exposed truth can create narcissistic collapse, rage or passive aggression, and flying monkey instruction externally due to the way the mind works when filtering truth and behaviour internally. If the truth needs to be expressed, gather all evidence and correct the timeline or what could be many years of backroom control fueled by trauma. The manipulator will always choose certain options over others, which only exposes their concern for how people will judge them once the truth is out…so they try to take down the victim. It is textbook, driven by years of paranoia that someone will eventually catch up to the facade. An overreaction is linked to the internal processing, and the victim card will be on hand in case the blame shift stops working.
Psychology Today - A New Way To Expose Liars
Psychology Today - A Diagnosis for People Who Can't Stop Lying
Psychology Today - How Secrets and Lies Destroy Relationships
Always speak to a professional
Part 6 - Hiding in Plain Sight (recap)
Abuse and manipulation will appear in families, work and friendships, and 99,9% of the time, it will be an abused person who never found personal growth at the centre of any drama, and at first, the victim card will mask any wrongdoing if the culture has no idea how a manipulator is made and what their behaviour patterns and statements actually mean.
Only extend their opinion after seeking a second opinion in case you are used to covering up something (triangulation, smear, neglection) they have done. Personality disorders form in childhood, so they may have been living with an internal issue for many years with the same deregulation and effective blame shift approach when life feels like it will expose them for who they actually are.
Blaming the victim, blame-shifting, and passive-aggressive behaviour are all unbalanced child behaviours to avoid accountability due to being unable to process guilt and shame… their parents may have made them feel different from themselves in their childhood, so never compare without evidence of the core issue.
They were affected in some way before affecting you - what goes in will come out and never be on the nose, in public, or in a way that is easy to figure out. Why? Because what goes on behind closed doors to them was taught..where else did it come from? This is where the obvious comes full circle: the past has all the answers. Do your history research and never take anything at face value.
PsychCentral - Things Abusers and Manipulators Say to Their Victims
Simple Psychology - Triangulation In Psychology
Simple Psychology - 7 Signs Of A Toxic Person
“As tough as it sounds, be careful of someone who never found personal growth and claims victimhood. Their experiences are one element; their behaviour is totally separate.”
After my study on this subject, what appeared many times in the data was ‘speaking to the wrong person is more damaging’ due to the victim not seeing their manipulator due to gaslighting, so they may not see someone who compromises their own life and will see nothing wrong with other peoples behaviour. Situations are not on everyone’s radar to spot a manipulator from a distance, even if they use their childhood or marriage in the conversation for attention. The agenda for validation and to hide their own behaviour is never seen at first without the correct education. Once the right questions are acknowledged, the story or the body language will crack the facade.
What is a Psychopath?
Part 7 - Beyond Malignant the disconnection goes further
“They just don’t have to feel empathy for others; it's a different motivation pathway; it's a game.”
“The female and male Psychopaths act completely different.”
“She can easily use her victim card.”
“Receptive and aim to manipulate for attention.”
“They cannot love and serve themselves like others do.”
“The love to offer half-truths to trick.”
“They don’t feel anxious most of the time.”
“If you choose to expose a psychopath, they will try and damage your life” - Lise Leblanc
For Sci-Fi book research, a character I've developed has a certain emotional detachment from living through a specific background. The reality of the same matter is not as entertaining when solving a story conclusion.
Professional Advice
The signoff with a lighter note when stepping back from a heavy subject - “give the mind time to process.” - Many songs, relationships and situations are linked to someone undiagnosed or they choose to remain one way without consideration.
Stereotypes exist for a reason, and so do labels, but if a person does not know what they mean and how to gain a mature perception of what was once hidden in plain sight, matters can get out of hand very quickly. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Flying Monkeys (hired to hurt) and backroom gossipers about people are unhealthy for the disruptors, who will eventually unravel and be found out… plus the victim they try and devalue (the oldest trick…blame shift in the same way their life has been on big avoidance fallacy (justified false logic)
Was It Me - How Narcissists Justify Their Behaviour Through Logical Reasoning
Everyone else will move on as manipulators have a hard-wired, baked-in mindset if they choose to put their disorders and hurt on others. The person will expose themselves but only after hurting families, communities, places of work and marriages.
I can offer two pieces of professionally trained and qualified advice below. Everything on this website is decades of education sourced from countless professionals trying to disrupt the status quo. Everyone should pass it on—it’s universal.
“Have you got all the evidence confirmed?”
“Have you got an exit plan from the manipulator?”
“Your behaviour is self-serving, toxic and inconsiderate; a boundary is now present. You are excluded from other people's lives for several reasons: do what you feel is right somewhere else and get a diagnosis from a professional in your own time.”
Narcissism avoids accountability and universal education as stated in the films; everyone else can grow and learn as psychology is a helping science for those who chose growth.
Independent - The 22 greatest kiss-off songs, from ‘abcdefu’ to ‘I Will Survive’
Your Tango - 15 ‘I Don't Deserve This Sh*t’ Songs
Timeout - The 55 greatest breakup songs
The data suggests that a narcissist will eventually unravel due to avoiding life lessons and accountability; the emotional maturity and perception do not give them tools to navigate past a certain age without internal conflict, which will manifest externally.
PsychCentral - What Is Narcissistic Collapse
Choosing Therapy - What Is Narcissistic Collapse?
Kamini Wood - 6 Signs of Narcissistic Collapse
A self-induced trauma from all of the damage backfires due to avoiding accountability for decades.
At the end of the day, it's a personality disorder created in childhood, and the past has no purpose in trying to justify their behaviour toward others, even if they think so.
It might be tough at first to see past the victim card; even the Joker tried it on Batman… but the face always gives it away. Plus, history does not disappear… we can all learn from our past, correction 94 to 75% can.